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I had a very intimate wedding on October 9th (20 guests). Let me tell you, I was all nervous about how everything would play out as well, and had a million questions in my head while I was planning this out: what should I do? would it be boring? is it going to feel like wedding? etc, etc, etc. Let me tell you…don’t worry about it! My day was so freaking awesome, and I am extremely happy I did it that way. Here is how it went.
I actually had my ceremony at a Catholic church. As you can imagine, I was kinda feeling awkward about it, because 20 people in a church would look kinda sad…but in the end, it didn’t matter. It was beautiful! My brother walked down with my mom, my hubby’s parents walked down together, my MOH walked, then I walked down with my dad. Since it was in a church, we had an organist and vocalist, and it was basically a full mass wedding. The ceremony started at 2pm and ended around 3pm.
After the ceremony everyone went outside, and we started taking photos right outside the church. After about 30 minutes, my hubby, the photographer and I left for Boston to do photos by ourselves. We pretty much told everyone that cocktail hour started at 5pm, and went on our way. (I was kinda freaking about this part of the planning…didn’t know how people would feel being left to themselves for a period of time, but it worked out fine. I don’t know what they did while we were in Boston, and that’s ok…they’re adults. All that mattered is that they got to the restaurant when they were supposed to! lol)
As I said, my husband and I got to Boston, and took photographs for about an hour, then we headed to the restaurant (UpStairs on the Square) to join everyone. We got there around 5:30pm, and everyone was already there, enjoying the cocktail hour. Here is how we timed our dinner:
5-6: cocktail hour
6ish: first dance
6:15pm: sit down for dinner
8pm: cut cake
9pm: leave restaurant
We had the restaurant for 4 hours (which again, I was like..ehehhh….its this too long for just 20 people? Answer: no). We had our own private room. To setup the day, we had a few DIY projects, and told the restaurant how to set everything up, and we had a florist bring in centerpieces. So we did decorate the room a bit and everything…just like any other wedding. We had cocktail hour, a three course dinner, unlimited bar, a dessert buffet and cake.
There was no dancing for the guests, just our first dance. We setup our own music on an ipod for cockail hour and for the first dance, and then let the restaurant play their own music for the rest of the night.
Even though we didn’t have any announcer, DJ, dancing, flower throwing, etc., it all felt special, wedding like, and awesome!
So that’s it. It was amazing. I say, go for the small wedding. Even though I tell you not to freak out about it, you’ll probably be nervous about how it will all play out (because I was like that), but let me tell you, in the end, you’ll be the happiest bride ever!
And to finish, here are some of the photos of my event. Credit to Alicia from Alicia Renee Photography