What’s your venue like?
We rented a former dairy farm in the Catskills. We stayed in the house, and we had an outdoor ceremony and cocktail hour and then dinner was served in the barn loft. We also hosted a BBQ the night before and a brunch the next morning, both at the same property.
What sort of ceremony are you having?
I’m not religious, but I’m of Jewish descent, and my husband is secular/agnostic. He agreed to have a Jewish ceremony — I wanted to have some sense of culture/history/tradition — but we hired a very liberal female rabbi and made a few changes to the ceremony to accomodate his preferences too. He actually built our chuppah, including chopping down the trees himself!
How many people are you inviting?
We invited about 160 and had about 90 RSVP yes. It was a quasi-destination wedding (3hr drive from the area where we live) and required an overnight stay, so we expected a lot of the more marginal/obligatory invitations to be declined. It worked out pretty well because I wanted a smaller and more intimate experience. We had about 80 people actually attend — there were 2 no-shows and 8 last-minute cancellations for various reasons.
What will they be eating and drinking?
Thanks to Hurricane Irene, our caterer quit with 2 days notice. We were suppose to have a plated meal, but we ended up with a new caterer who set up a buffet at the last minute. I don’t really remember what was served, but the food was fine. We stocked our own bar and had a bartender serve drinks. We also bought a ton of wine and drank the leftovers for quite awhile afterwards!
What is your theme/colour scheme?
No theme, but the mismatched bridesmaid dresses soft pinks/oranges, light greens, light brown, and gold/tan. The flowers and paper lanterns (in the barn) were in similar shades. The invitations were soft orange and brown font on ivory paper with a poppy design, and the save the dates were brown font on ivory paper with a light green dandelion design. I wanted the colors to complement the natural mountain setting.
What entertainment have you got planned?
We had a ipod playlist because I generally find bands and djs to be overbearing and cheesy. We skipped things like bridal party introductions at the reception, though we did do first dances. We also had a fireworks display after dinner; it was a wedding gift from our fireworks-obsessed cousin 🙂
How much will you be spending?
Too much! We should have eloped! (That was my original suggestion!)