Post # 1
Okay, so I moved in with my husbands mother and sisters. I thought id be okay wth it but honestly, you learn more about yourself once your married, let alone live wit people other then your family. As a wedding gift, My dads friend got me a set of awesome pans! As soon as I opened it up infront of her, she was so happppy! saying ” YAY we needed new pans” anyway, today while im making lunch for my DH, I started looking for the smaller pan. She saw me looking for something so she asks what I need. when I do tell her that I need the smaller pan she goes ” Oh, I threw it away, there was a scratch on it ” ( from cooking )– u know how annoyed/ frustrated I got!? I know its a pan and of course i wont say or show how I annoyed I was-to her since I dont want to be rude.. I just looked away — but theyre My FRIGGIN PANS.. I dont mind sharing, but I like the ” can I ” and ” may I please ” in a relationship. I sound so selfish, and I usually do like giving people what I have, i dont kno why Im feeling like this but ugh!
Post # 3
ohhhh man, i would flip. I don’t know why you had to move in with them, but there needs to be boundaries. I recommend making some ground rules to try to avoid everyone stepping on eachothers toes.
and try to get the heck out asap…. I wouldn’t be able to live that way for long
Post # 4
Not overreacting. Having lived with roommates for the past 10 years of my life I can say this is ridiculous. I would be soooo annoyed.
Post # 5
wow that is pretty rude…you didn’t over react at all.
Post # 6
Oh no! I would be upset too. 🙁
Post # 7
That’s insane. 1. If they were using YOUR pans, they should have been careful enough not to scratch it. 2. They dont throw away something that doesnt belong to them!! Now, with that said, you also should probably keep your items out of commnuity use and save it for when you move out of their house.
Post # 8
That biotech owes you a pan!!!!
Haha I typed biotch and it changed it to biotech. I liked it so it’s staying!
Post # 9
That’s rude. Even if she scratched it, she should have told you and apologized before getting rid of it. I agree with the above poster, keep your stuff hidden from now on!
Post # 10
Seriously, who throws a pan away just because it has a scratch on it?
You have every right to be upset, I would’ve been livid. THEY’RE NOT HERS TO TOUCH.
Post # 11
goddamn biotech!! 😀
No seriously, you are not overracting. Thats nuts.
Post # 12
Oh my you totally have a right to be down right pissed!! I think I might have dug the pan out of the trash and chased her around the house with it( oops did I say that) I would have prob said some not so nice things…..
Post # 13
@pinkshoes: I dont even know when were moving out, probably not anytime soon… omg.. not anytime soon.. meh.. but theres no way I can keep m stuff to myself.
for example : a few weeks back, I was getting ready to do some laundry, when his older sister who rents the basement, says that I could use her detergeant this time because everytime she buys, it runs out quick blah blah blah, and yada.. so im like Oh okay, no problem, thank you. So I decided a few days ago to buy me and my husbands own detergeant, that way I can buy whatever I WANT, and not worry about everyone using it. So me and his mom go to the store- now, I tell her I need to buy detegeant, clorox and fabric softners. the one I pick out was about 105 sheets, I didnt wanna be rude again, so im like ill buy you one too so we can both have one! I was als trying to pass the hint that Ill have minee and you have urs, but instead shes like ” nooo its okay! thats a lot of sheets, we use it ” and puts away the one I handed to her. I was like kayyyy message not sent apparently.. So I come home and I try to talk to my husband, explaining how I just wanted us to have our own seperate lives– even though we live with everyone, I wanted to feel like I can buy our own detergeant with out feeling a whole family is using it, especially wsince I paid for it and cant afford to keep doing that every two weeks. He looked at me as if I was horrible person for not wanting his mom to share our detergeant. Its not only his mom, but its his other sister too, and its not just clothes theyre washing, its almost anything so hey thats a lot of friggin detergeant gone.. I cant put boundries, because to my husband ill come off as a very selfish cruel person.. atleast thats how I feel. Now, dont get me wrong, my husband is an amaszing person, and my MIL is sooo kind and sweeet! I just like it when I buy things that are meant for the both of us, to just stay for the both of us.
Post # 15
If I were in your situation I would just put my detergent, dryer sheets anything personal away and then they wouldn’t have a choice but to go out and get there own stuff. And as far as wedding presents go they would all be sitting in a storage unit waiting for my own home.
Post # 16
You are not over reacting! In fact I think you are under reacting. Which I understand you are being diplomatic and that is fine, I don’t think I could hold my cool like you’ve done.
I would have been like, “Hey blah, where is my small pan? I put it right here.” And if it was anything like “Oh I threw it away because derp-di-derp.” I would have just stared at her with a look of KILL burning in my eyes then I would have raised my voice and said, “And what gives you the right to throw away MY wedding gift away? Hm? I would NEVER disrespect you in such away! Now get it out of the trash or buy me a new pan.” I would have been livid.
How did you keep yourself so calm? I wish I could buy you a small pan to make up for this disrespect! I am so, so sorry! It is just a pan and you can move on from this and it seems like you’re already doing a great job of it.