Post # 1
OK so six years ago my fiance and I were introduced by my best friend and his best friend who had been dating at the time. We hit it off and the rest is history. In regards to the “friends” – we all sort of drifted apart, had our fights and NOW do not speak to either one of them, and they are no longer dating either. All long very complicated stories that I’m not going to get into.
It’s a very strange situation, because we are still unfortunately intertwined with these two people in many different ways. His friend is still friends with people we know and work with and my friend is still friends with people I know.
The other day when writing out my guest list I was thinking to myself that we maybe should just be the bigger people and invite them to the wedding. After all, it was because of them that we met and we sort of owe it to them. If it weren’t for them, we would NEVER have met! Even thought the two “friends” have done quite a few back stabby things – I thought it was the right thing to do… What do you all think? What would you do in my situation?
Post # 3
Ehhhh, it would depend on how many of your guests they’d already know/get on with, I guess. If numbers are not tight, feck it, you might as well, but if numbers are tight, they’d prob be the first to go.
Post # 4
You would be setting yourself up to be backstabbed again, and setting up the stage for drama. Move away, move on (sounds like you already have), don’t let yourself get emotional. People won’t change because you are getting married.
Post # 5
I would invite them, personally, if your guestlist has room for it! Just don’t seat them near each other 🙂 Maybe it’ll be a chance to mend fences! Plus, you don’t even know if they’ll RSVP yes – they might choose not to come on their own accord.
Post # 6
I think if you’re not friends with either of these people any more than you shouldn’t invite them. That’s lovely that you met through them and you still have mutual friends, but if you haven’t talked in a year, two years, however long it’s been, you don’t owe them anything especially if they’ve proven themselves to be bad friends.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t invite them. Do you really want to pay a per head charge for people you don’t even like anymore? You don’t owe them anything honestly. I understand they introduced you, but it’s not like you’re forever in their debt because of it. I’d save the money and leave them off the guest list or fill those two spaces with people you really care about! But I wouldn’t invite them.
Post # 8
stick the thought on the backburner and MAYBE if there is room they could be on the C- list….DH and I didn’t invite anyone to our wedding that we hadn’t spoken to in 2 years…
Post # 9
I agree @daydreamer…if your guestlist permits it, I would invite them. You never know what might happen.
Post # 10
If you are interested in being friends with either of these people again then invite them. If not I’d say skip it.
Post # 11
People meet other in lots of different ways. I say if you’re not still friends then you don’t have to invite them. I met my FI on Craigslist but that doesn’t mean I’m inviting the creator of Craigslist.
Post # 12
I would not invite them if we were not close friends anymore…simply because it is expensive and there are many other people I would prefer to have there instead. However, if your guest list allows for a few more people, then maybe it would be nice to have them there, but I would put the must-invites on the ilst first and then see where you are at with numbers before you consider inviting them.