Tell me ONE thing you'd change

posted 3 years ago in Recaps
Post # 3
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Worker bee

@mylittleviolett:  I would have looked harder for a photographer/videographer rather than going with the one my MIL introduced us to. Their demo video and album looked fantastic but I failed to ask for additional examples of their work. Our wedding video has sloppy cuts and our wedding album looks like a beginner’s photoshop project.

C’est la vie… at least I know now what to look out for … on to planning our 5-year vow renewal … I promised myself, this time will be fabulously perfect.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would have started getting ready earlier (I delayed), remembered to put on my pore-hiding cream (I think it worked out ok anyway but I wish I had used it) and remembered my guestbook map. That’s right… we FORGOT TO BRING THE GUESTBOOK and it was two hours away. We kind of went “OH WELL” because there was no sense stressing about it, but if I could change something that would be a big one. 

Also I probably would have set the hair dye for a shorter time and get a slightly lighter shade of pink.  

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@mylittleviolett:  We ran out of white wine EARLY, like in the cocktail hour (well the second cocktail hour – we had a pre-ceremony one too).  We did DIY alcohol and drank more of it than I expected at the welcome dinner the night before.  And it was an outside wedding with temps in the 70s (dry heat), so I felt really bad.  But I was also at the point of “Fuck it, I’m enjoying myself!” so whatever.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I would have spent more time with my husband at the reception, seriously I feel like I barely saw him, we were both getting pulled in every direction.

I would not have had a MOH, it was pointless.

There are a few people that were a little too rowdy that I would not have invited.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@mylittleviolett:  I wish I had been ready at least an hour earlier than I was.  I missed out on a lot of pictures that could have been taken.  🙁  I will have to have a redo to have some pics with my husband.  We have like 4…..

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ve got a few, but nothing that was a big deal.

  • We forgot to put out most of the lawn games we were intending to use. 
  • I should have found the time to get a lighter colored lipstick
  • I wish I had eaten more of the desserts from our dessert bar. I didn’t get one of my new cousin’s cookies and they’re my fave! 
  • I wish we had told the bartenders that the champagne was meant to be used at the breakfast the next morning, not the night of the wedding
  • We should have covered the firewood because it got too wet for the bonfire

Some other stuff that you might think were regrets actually turned out to be priceless. For instance, we were way behind on the last minute DIY stuff (making program fans, hanging the 1000 origami cranes, rolling silverware in napkins) which could have been disasterous but, instead, it turned into a great crafting night with about a dozen friends and family in our hotel suite after the welcome dinner. It was a great time to hang out with people and it was also an opportunity for everyone to get to know one another. It was great.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would have kept my veil on longer. I took a few pics with it on at photo location #1, and then took it off. That veil was so special as it used me be my mom’s. Most of my ourdoor pics would have looked so beautiful with the veil I don’t know why I took it off so early in the photo session 🙁

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Really, really tough question.

There are two things that are bugging me at the moment. One my hair ‘slipped’ a bit during the service so I have some annoying sticky out bits in some of the photos. So maybe I’d have liked to have added more pins.

But probably the bigger deal. I forgot to put my veil over my face to go into Church, which I was fully intending to do. So I have no veil shots, not unveiling shots and my Mum bought my veil for me (she loves them) and I feel like I let her down a little…..but she hasnt told Dad or I off for forgetting so hopefully she dosent mind too much.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I would have had the favors set up totally differently on the tables.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Not enough food during hors d’evoures, and we asked for there not to be a bartender since we did unlimited Mimosas.

Well, no bartender meants that the soda package we paid for went COMPLETELY unused (pitchers were put on the dark, empty bar instead of at the tables)

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would have told my girls to arrive ready to go. As it was, I told them to arrive with everything except the dress on. I thought it would be super quick for them to get out of their street clothes and into their dress, especially if their hair and make-up was already done. Nope! First of all, they both arrived a bit late, and then took a long time to change. This made me about 30 min late getting dressed (because I needed help), and therefore pictures ran late all day. Because our pictures were rushed, we ended up not getting some that in hindsight I really wish we had.

Post # 15
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341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Getting ready in a different location. My bridesmaids and I got ready at my house where the ceremony and reception was taking place. It was great for last minute questions by our DOC but we couldn’t take any pictures before the ceremony. My DH has a bunch with his groomsmen but I have 1 with my bridesmaids.

Having a videographer. I thought that one of my friends would be able to pull it off. She did a great job but you can’t hear anything because of the wind and you only get one angle…Also, at the reception, she didn’t think to video any of the speeches.

Had a make-up trial. The girl didn’t have time before the wedding as she was in school and I had sent her a picture of what I wanted. When my mom saw me for the first time she just looked stunned. Even my DH says that he thought I had a lot of makeup on when I was walking down the aisle.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

The Pastor referred to me as my Middle Name first during the beginning of the Vows.. it was ackward and humerous, but ultimatly I wish that had not happened.

My PA would have been a Bridesmaid in place of a different girl who I truthfully wish I had not even asked to be part of at all… That is something which I will regret till I die… though I would never admit to either of them.

My MOH would not have been MOH – rather, she would have just been a BM (she is my sister and I was trying to “do the right thing” when I asked)

I wish I had not become so wrapped up in my Mother’s emotional manipulation throughout the planning process. Once the wedding was over it took me over a week to be able to be mentally / emotionally stable enough and face calling her without being “reactive” to whatever childlike BS she would throw at me. She had not one good thing to say to me about the wedding, other than how she agreed with me that she was “Glad it was OVER” after I confessed that much to her.. She still hasn’t figured out that she is the reason I am glad that it is. Finally after bitching to me about stuff that doesnt matter for 40 minutes she told me she thought I looked beautiful that day.

All in all, it was a wonderful day, and being married to my Husband is the greatest thing in the world. I know our guests enjoyed themselves, and esthetically everything came together beautifully. The food, the flowers, and the entertainment was perfection and we all (the Bridal Party) looked amazing.

I am excited to see the pictures – and take our Honeymoon over Christmas since our families were so wonderful selfish and childlike while we were planning and (mostly) paying for our wedding. We just cannot wait to spend that time with just the two of us on an exotic vacation!!

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