Tell me positive stories and PLEASE put my mind at ease

posted 2 weeks ago in TTC
Post # 2
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7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i know people who had IUIs work on 1st, 2nd, and 3rd tries. so it can happen.  spotting is also normal.  it sounds like your cervix was irritated and this is the blood coming out.

 

i don’t have a positive IUI story for myself, i did 3 iuis that were all BFN, i did 2 fresh cycles of IVF.  our first transfer worked and DS was born.  then we recently did an FET. success on the 1st transfer and now pregnant with #2.

 

it took us 2 years to create DS.  i tested my 1st 3 cycles of TTC then felt more sad seeing a stark white test than AF showing.  i had one test left that was set to expire 8/16.  i got my first positive beta on 8/13/16.  i used the test after we got the positive result and finally got to see 2 pink lines.

Post # 4
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1586 posts
Bumble bee

daniellemc :  *Big Hugs* I haven’t been there with the IUI, but wanted to give you hugs about announcements during your TTC journey. I’m not on my 3rd friend announcing a pregnancy since starting to TTC. The first got pregnant on their first cycle, due in October; the second got pregnant after a few cycles will still BF her firstborn (also didn’t take long to get pregnant with her first and had a very healthy pregnancy), due in February of next year; and the latest got pregnant after only a few cycles as well, but we’re cautiously optimistic as she has had multiple MCs. FX so hard for you guys!! I’m with ajillity81 that spotting can be normal, and it’s probably just a bit of cervical irritation. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2021

All of my friends are in their mid to late 30s and the majority were successful with IUI. Weʻre giving ourselves a year of actively trying before venturing down the testing road but I would be fully willing to use technology to get our miracle baby. I have no qualms about needing help. ***hugs**** for the friend announcement, my heart strings tinge a little when my younger friends all accidentally get pregnant without even tryinig cuz I just know itʻs gonna be a difficult road for us. Also, I ALWAYS spot and get the runs after procedures. Spotting from the irriation and the runs from the anxiety of it all. Fingers crossed for you, Bee!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I did Femara + IUI, and it worked on the first try.  I also had some spotting around day 3, and diarrhea.  Don’t worry, those are all really normal things that follow ovulation for lots of women 🙂

There’s no way to know until test day if it worked, but Femara alone probably brings your chances up from 0 (not ovulating) to 20-25% (like a normal fertile person).  I truly believe that it was the Femara and not the IUI that got me pregnant, I am pretty sure I actually ovulated the day before the IUI and my doctor even told me to make sure to have sex to not miss it rather than have my husband ‘save it up’ for the IUI.  But I’d have kicked myself for not trying the IUI had I not and then tested negative. But had IUI not worked, I might have tried the next cycle on just the Femara.  It’s all so confusing!  I’ve already decided though that when we try for #2, that if after a few months (3-4) I’m not pregnant then I will definitely go straight to Femara.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

daniellemc :  it sucks, it always sucks, even when you’re genuinely happy for the person.  Take the time to feel whatever you need to feel.  

One thing that helped me when we started with the RE and the Femara was to think “well, if I haven’t been ovulating, then this is really my first time trying” rather than counting up all the months after months of negative tests. It also helped to reduce the feeling of ‘omg it needs to work THIS month’ because it reset the clock in my head. Also, I test like 9 days post-IUI and got a negative and cried all night and everyday for the next few days as cramps set in–I took another test 12 days post to put myself out of my misery and confirm what seemed inevitable. I was so shocked when it was positive.  Especially compared to all the months when I was so sure I WAS pregnant because of symptom spotting.  Goes to show that there is really know way to know until test day, and early testing will just stress you out.  Please do come back with updates, the girls here are soooo supportive and it helps to have more people be there for you!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - My parents' back yard

I have a friend who got pregnant on her first try of IUI. Others haven’t been so lucky with it, but have been successful with IVF later on.

I know it’s hard to hear all these announcements around you, but keep hoping and doing what you’re doing, and in the meantime, enjoy your life and think of your partner and all the great things that are going on. Live in the moment, not the possible future.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have a friend who was in a very similar situation….pcos, not ovulating, try for about a year before she found all this out. Did an iui and it worked the first try!!! There’s definitely hope. 

Good luck and lots of baby dust to you!!! ❤️

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I was in a similar situation to you with PCOS and did not ovulate. I got pregnant on my first IUI. By the way, I had diarrhea for three days before I got my first positive pregnancy test. It was my first sign that something was off. I was on a business trip and tested when I got home. My husband was convinced that IUI would work, but I was skeptical. Good luck, I know it can be a long, hard journey. 

Post # 13
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411 posts
Helper bee

I was told during a pap smear that I was more likely to bleed because at the time I was taking progestone only contraception. Maybe the procedure in combination with your progesterone levels just caused a bit of spotting?

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Not quite the same but I was not ovulating on my own, did two rounds of clomid and got my bfp on my 2nd round! Keep your head up and know your time is coming! It’s going to be so worth the wait when it does. Big hugs. 

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