- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
And to be the bigger person.
I messaged my mother’s friend who has lived across the nation for ~12 years (read: I have not seen this woman in twelve years) to ask for her address for save the dates. This woman has a daughter my age as well which is how she and my mother met. She replied very enthusiastically and said I must be so excited and so on and so forth.
AN HOUR LATER she posted, “So proud of my daughter – making good choices, graduating from college, not pregnant or getting married. I’m so proud she’s not making these mistakes so young <3”
Again, we’re the same age. We’re both college graduates (and so is my FI for the record, with a great job). We aren’t kids anymore. She didn’t even say “not pregnant or married” it was specifically “not pregnant or GETTING married.” Gah!
I was SO tempted to write “Oh dear, silly me! I was going to send you a save the date but now I’m thinking you might not want to be part of my big day – or as you so nicely worded it, ‘mistake.'” or something equally snarky but I didn’t have the lady balls and that would have just caused unnecessary drama.
I called my mom and fumed and she said, “I can’t believe she said that. Well, then just don’t invite her if that’s how she feels.” Which I entertained briefly but I’ve already asked for her address and I feel as though it would be in poor form to not invite her now over a facebook post. She probably won’t fly across the country to come bear witness to my MISTAKE (grrrrrr) so it ultimately doesn’t matter, and I know I need to just be the bigger person …. but it’s hard sometimes.