Creepy! Carrie, I think that your BM’s roommate definitely wins some sort of awful award!
@Bakerella – wow, she sounds all sorts of vain to think that was about her. I can’t believe she left you there.
@Vitula – wow, that would be really irritating. It must have been a hard change to make from wonderful roommates to druggies.
@LaborofLove – ahh! your story sounds like how R’s roommates in his dorm were last year. One of them had sex on his bed (which was in his own private room, he was sleeping at my apartment) and didn’t tell him or change the sheets or anything. They basically turned it into a party house, so R spent the whole year at my apartment for the most part.
We are going to be getting our own apartment next year… unfortunately it will probably have to be a studio, which is going to be tight. I hate how high rent prices are!
Right now my main problem with our roommate is passive aggressiveness. She was super nice all last year until we signed the lease on this place. She started having money issues, and had to borrow money from me to sign the lease for this place. I also had to front some bills because she didn’t pay me back. Well, she ended up owing me about $350, and said she’d pay it back in two weeks, at her next paycheck.
Of course, she kept having excuses for why the money wasn’t there…. eventually almost SIX MONTHS later, I got it back. Towards the end I would tell her, “I’m really broke, I have a vet bill to pay, is there any way you could give me even some of the money? I have to pay the bill by XXX date” she’d say of course, and then magically stay confined in her room for the next two weeks so we never ran into each other.
This year she pays internet upfront, and I pay electric. We all turn in rent, but then we swap money for the bills. Electric is $75 a month, internet is $40. She hasn’t paid electric in about 4 months, and then b*tches me out because she “can’t keep fronting the internet.” when I point out how much electric is, she says “oh, yeah, I’ll pay you soon” and then goes missing for a few more days.
Cut to a few days ago – her boyfriend reset our internet by accident, and we had to work with the Linksys router customer service to fix it – it’s my router by the way. She didn’t tell me the night it happened what went wrong, I had to text her asking her if she knew why it wasn’t working. She then says, “well, I’m going to need your help to pay to fix it, it’ll be $40. But I need you to fix it, they said to go on the website.” I really didn’t feel like arguing, so I just went through the whole hoopla. They said they’d charge me for customer service online or one the phone, same amount, so I just did it on the phone. Two hours and $30 later, it was fixed. I told her the amount and that it was fixed and she goes “oh, I guess we can maybe split that. Why would you call when you knew they were going to charge us?” ARGH! They were the ones that broke it!
She also never cleans up after herself in the kitchen or main area. She’s constantly labeling her own things but using ours, never buys communal items, didn’t clean up a coffee spill right outside her bedroom door for two weeks (we ended up cleaning it) and doesn’t respect our things – her cats have destroyed our living room furniture with their claws, she’s stained my coffee table, etc.
Through all this, I’ve been nice still. I just can’t bring myself to make things awkward, and so I’m still kind to her. Well, this weekend we were away, and I get a text, “we ate some of your brownies, really sorry, I’ll leave a few bucks” and I told her “oh, don’t worry about leaving money, I made too many anyway.” and she says in reply, “oh, I didn’t think you would be nice about it.”
GRRR. Okay, sorry, vent over! Just had to get it out of my system after all. I know it’s not as bad as druggie roommates, or ones who have sex on futons… but it’s so difficult to live with!