Tell me your thoughts… Letting the whole family know we're engaged

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I wouldn’t give it as part of the gift. Just give it specifically to his parents.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

Having played that game many times at work Christmas parties, I think the person opening the ornament is going to get cheated out of a gift so that you can have a dramatic announcement.

After the game, why don’t you guys just bring out your gift and present it to his parents in front of everyone?

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I think if you are doing a real gift as well then it is a perfectly lovely idea.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I agree with your boyfriend. It won’t be wanted.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I agree that if it is in addition to a real gift, it’s a fun idea. But I would think about who might be opening it. It could be anyone there, are all of their reactions going to be as good as giving it to his parents? I could definitely see for example one of FI cousins opening a gift like this and being just confused at first, or some guy opening it and just thinking “Thanks for the ornament” without even realizing what it really is, an announcement! So just think those things through as well and then decide. I don’t think you can go wrong with just having it be an extra little gift to his parents after everyone else has opened their gifts.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

In terms of giving it to his parents, I would wait until the gift giving game is over…then add “Oh, FMIL/FFIL, we have one more little gift just for you! But it’s something everyone should be happy about.” – Something along those lines.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

My family does this (we call it a Yankee Swap) and I’d be pretty pissed if I got an ornament with my cousin’s engagement date on it. That’s just one of the most useless gifts ever to someone who isn’t your parent or grandparent.

Give it to his parents as an additional present.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Make the gift a bottle of wine/champagne/whatever else you might drink, with a personalized label?

We announced to parents when we arrived at their house to visit by answering with ‘how about some champagne?” when asked if we’d like a drink upon arrival…

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