- 8 years ago
Okay so I only got engaged yesterday… and after it happened, I felt like running around singing from the mountaintops – I’M ENGAGED! I’ve waited 3.5 years, we have the doggie and the mortgage and now, I’ve finally got the ring and the proposal. My parents were there when he asked me, and we later went to his mom’s place as usual, where we got to tell everyone together.
As the day went on, I learned that he basically had already told everyone, which bless his heart – was rather sweet. He was so excited!
There’s just one catch. He never told his Dad. Dad, his wife and younger college-age sister left for Maui on Christmas morning, and they spoke by phone on Christmas Eve and he NEVER MENTIONED IT. When I found this out, I told him it was important to call his Dad right away. He made up excuses about his Dad not taking his phone to Maui, etc. I finally said “Your sister has Facebook on her phone and SOMEONE is going to write on my page something about this – and you own Dad is going to hear, from [sister] that we got engaged. It’s not right, you need to call.”
30 minutes later, I overheard him leave a VOICEMAIL telling his Dad and wishing him a Merry Christmas. I was floored. I don’t feel that voicemail was any better than Facebook – It’s your own father!
When I asked him about it today, he got super upset and told me to drop the issue. And I don’t really know what to think about it. They have an awkward relationship, one that no forum post could ever describe entirely. They talk, they spend time together, but their relationship has something ‘off’ about it. His Dad was really awful to him when he got married before, so maybe that has something to do with it. I’m not sure, but if I ask him he just shuts down.
I have no idea what to do, but all I do know is that I feel really awful about the situation. Any insight?