Post # 1
My SO and I just found out yesterday that we are having a baby. It was a surprise. However, on Wednesday (4 days before I found out) I stopped at my mom’s house and my sister was there and told me that in late September her and her wife (same sex couple) were going to try for a baby. They have a guy friend who is going to donate to them. My sister will have be having her one year wedding anniversary the same weekend they are going to try to get pregnant. SO and I have talked about when to tell our families… he would prefer to wait until we get through the second trimester but said whenever I’m ready that he is fine with it. I’m wondering if I should tell my mom and sister before they try to conceive…? I’m afraid that she is going to think that once I found out she was going to try that I went and got pregnant first, which isn’t the case, I was pregnant when she told me, I just didn’t know it yet. My sister isn’t really competitive like that, I just wonder if she will think I stole her baby thunder lol. Btw, she is 24 and I’m 28.
Post # 2
There is no such thing as “baby thunder”. Women get pregnant when they get pregnant, and they can tell people basically whenever they feel like doing so.
Go ahead and tell your family about your pregnancy when you’re comfortable. If your sister gets upset, so be it. There’s no logical reason for you to feel bad or guilty. Your pregnancy doesn’t affect or change what she has going on at all.
Post # 3
NightOwl27: Tell them whenever you are comfortable with sharing that information. When they know your dates, they wil be able to figure out that you were already pregnant last week.
I doubt you will get through the second trimester before people notice. Did you mean the first trimester?
Post # 4
NightOwl27: When you announce in 2nd trimester, you’ll tell them you’re 13 weeks’ pregnant (or whatever it is). So your sister will know that you were already pregnant when she told you her plans.
Post # 5
If she and her wife are seriously contemplating babies, she’ll know how to do the math and realize that you were pregnant even before then. I agree with your husband; wait until second trimester and the beginning stages of their process have ebbed, then make your big announcement.
Post # 6
I told my parents the second I got my BFP. I wanted them to know in case anything went wrong and I wanted emotional support. Everyone else finds out at 12-14 weeks. I think it depends on what type of relationship you have with your sister – if you want to be able to go to her for support, then tell her.
Post # 7
Thank you! I feel better waiting now. My sister and I aren’t super close so waiting to announce is probably the best. I already told someone at work who recently had a baby because I needed a real person for support and advice who knows all about pregnancy. Plus, working in a hospital, sometimes you have to come forward about your pregnancy because there are certain exposures that are not good for pregnant women.
Post # 8
NightOwl27: You can’t help that you got pregnant first – especially since it was a surpirse to you.
I’m not sure how you’d manage to get THROUGH your second trimester before having to tell anyone– even when I was tiny pre-baby #1, it became obvious that I was either lettin myself go or something was up LOL
And this baby- at 9 weeks I looked pregnant!!
Your sister will ikely be happy for you! Tell family when you are comfortable.
Post # 9
I get pregnant and told my bf now fiance at the time family when we were 10 weeks about 2 months later his sister told us they were pregnant. It just made it so much more exciting. We all went to lamaze class together and that was fun. My son is 2 months older than his cousin. I had a boy and she had a girl. It worked out great. No one was mad or jealous.