(Closed) Telling my parents they can’t come visit venues with us?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Bee
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

we had  the same feeling.  we told all our assorted family members that we wanted to just go look at the venues ourselves, but that they would be more than welcome to visit them before or after we were there (we live out of town, so arranging a later visit together would be a little more difficult).  I think everyone was ok with it since it really was just the two of us, and not one invited family member and not another.  This process is about the two of you and your decisions, so they should understand.

Post # 4
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2186 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

if your parents are paying – i would tread lightly, however if they arent, its perfectly acceptable to request yall see it before the parentals do 🙂

Post # 7
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2682 posts
Sugar bee

If there is a tackful way for you to say it (you know your parents best), I would tell them that while you appreciate their opinon you would like to visit the venues with just you and your fiancee first and you will take them back to the top choices to get their opinion.  Then you can still have time to view them on your own without things being pushed on you but have them involved as well. 

Post # 8
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406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Easy- tell your folks that you want to look at a lot of venues to weed out the unsuitable ones and that you’ll get all the info for them  that they want and then they can visit them with you (solo or paired) or on their own. Call it the first pass and they’ll appreciate the info.   The only reason I want to spot out the venues is to gauge cost, parking, accessibility and ambience.  The major thing in Pop’s mind is cost… forget the ambience;-)

Post # 9
Bee
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

My parents are paying, too, and they definitely wanted to see the one we chose before we committed and that was definitely no problem.

We’ll be at the Botanical Garden in the Bronx – we looked all over Westchester and the city if you’re interested in hearing about any of the places we saw

Post # 10
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1251 posts
Bumble bee

If they are paying I think you guys need to let them come. Maybe you should discuss this a little more in depth with your FI. 

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