Post # 1
I wasnt really sure what the title should have been for this post.
This monday i hit 6 weeks pregnant, my husband and i had planned to tell all of our parents after our dating scan next week (we would have been telling just them at 8 weeks)
Unfortunately this tuesday evening i started to miscarry. My husband and i are devastated. Me more so though. truth be told im not really not coping.
of course we were waiting to tell people because of risk of miscarriage, but now that it has happened i just really want to have my mums support.
my question is do any of you have any suggestions for how i tell my mum i have miscarried when she doesnt know i was pregnant.
or should i just keep it to myself?
Post # 3
I’m sorry you are going through this. You should definitely reach out to your mom for support. Don’t isolate yourself from your support system when you need it. I’m sure she’ll understand why you were waiting to tell people, after all she’s been pregnant too.
Post # 4
I’m so so sorry for your loss =( It’s a terrible thing to have to go through, made only worse if you feel alone. I would absolutely tell your mom- the sooner the better. I would let her know that you were being cautious about telling friends and family, but now that you’re struggling that you need her support. I think most moms would understand completely.
Please do what you can to take care of yourself- we’re all here for you too.
Post # 5
Sorry for your loss. I think a support system is very important right now. Reach out to her. She will absolutely understand why you didn’t want to tell anyone about the pregnancy, and for a good reason. Hugs!
Post # 6
I am sorry for your loss.
I recently miscarried. There are only two people that know, besides my FI. I didn’t want to tell people and have anyone feel sorry for me. Everyone is different though. I know some people who have miscarried and feel the need to talk about it. Personally, I don’t want to talk about it.
I don’t see anything wrong with telling your mom. If you want to tell her, just be honest with her and explain that you didn’t want to tell anyone until the 8 week test. A lot of people don’t tell their friends and family until 12 weeks or so, just for this reason.
Post # 7
I am so sorry for your loss. Having been through one myself, I understand how awful it is physically and emotionally. I say get all the support you can. This experience won’t be easy but it might be less traumatic with the support of your mother. Good luck, you are in my prayers.
Post # 8
it’s definitely not easy to tell folks after it happens, but you can do it. Tell who you want to tell. I think that we just sat down with people and said we had some news to share. When you bring up, ‘we found out we were pregnant’ but then you’re not looking elated, they’ll know. I think it’s important to be able to say it to a few folks, even if you don’t want to talk about it. You can even simply say that. … ‘i wanted you to know, but I’m not ready to talk about it in detail yet’. They’ll respect you & your wishes.
Post # 9
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I feel your pain. i was also waiting before telling anyone though i was almost 19 weeks. I just told my mom I was in the hospital and then explained. I think she was shockedthat i had a miscarriage so far along, but so was i.