- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Okay so here is the back story, when FI and I first got engaged my former employer offered to do the photography in my wedding for free. I was alright with allowing him to do it because. It’s basically free. He just wanted a $100 donation to his future mission trip to Romania.
I agreed to it because we had no funds going into the wedding planning. We assumed that neither of our families would be helping us pay for the wedding, because they have not been active in our lives thus far. FI’s parents actually just kicked us out of our house. (That’s what you get when you let family be your landlords.) The whole reason why I had been living with my FI was not romantic at all, I moved out of my house to get away from a verbally, emotionally and mentally abusive family situation. But now everything is sunshine and giggles apparently. Months later my family wanted to pay for the food for the wedding, FI parents are throwing me a shower and doing a rehearsal dinner. We were in a car accident a month to the date after being engaged so we’ve recently come into a small amount of money that has allowed us to buy a professional photographer.
I guess I don’t know how to break it to my old boss/friend who volunteered. I’ve never liked his photography. It’s posed, static and belongs in Olan Mills. I was usually his second. I took all of the “artsy” photos and he got the must have ones during ceremony and family.
We had an engagement photoshoot with him that he totally botched by preferring to take large scale shots of ferris wheels at night rather than taking a pictures of us at the carnival we paid for him to go to. The most important photo for us was getting one on a carousel that he screwed up. I told him that was the only picture I cared about and he ended up saying, “Well, they just came out blurry.” I would have paid for multiple trips on that fucker. The carnival workers were very nice and let us hang out on a lot of the less popular rides (like the carousel) when no one was there. I even told him at the carnival that I had extra tickets and we could get on the same ride again and again to get the picture right.
He does photography now on the side and it’s not the main source of his income. He just is accepting donations to his mission trip. I’m not sure should I pay him the $100? I mean he still completely ruined the engagement photos. He only took a few that were not blurry and they were poorly cropped and shot.
Should I call him? Take him out to dinner? Facebook message him?
I was lucky to have someone offer to take photos for me for free, but if he’s going to treat with the same no care attitude as the engagement photos, I don’t want to take the chance of that at the wedding. Especially if I don’t like his photography to begin with. He had the date marked on his calendar already because he knew he’d be invited, but now I’m just worried about how to tell him. I really want to avoid insulting him, though I know it will be difficult to avoid hurting his feelings.