Telling SOs parents were expecting.,,,

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

1. Congrats!

2. Hopefully they realize that nothing they do/say will change the situation and can be happy and supportive for you!

 

Best of luck, i hope they surprise you today!

 

Post # 4
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2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Ninteenthchance:  Congratulations!! I hope that it won’t be as uncomfortable as you think it will be 🙁 Good luck! Let us know how it went.

Post # 5
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1787 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Good luck! I’m sure after it takes a minute to set it, they will be ecstatic to know they will have a grandbaby in the near future.  Or at least I hope they are!  Congratulations to you guys!

Post # 7
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Ninteenthchance:  My SIL (who was 30) had to tell her parents she was pregnant and engaged. They refused to be happy about the baby until she got married!

But now that the baby is here, she is the best thing in their world!

Post # 9
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3787 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Ninteenthchance:  Good luck! It might be hard for them to process, and they might say something that is less than tactful. While you should not have to deal with this and deserve for them to be excited for you, I think it would be really big of you to vow to yourself that you’re going to be practicing compassion and forgiveness. If they’re super religious, it might be a big shock. They will have to process it right there on the spot, and sometimes that doesn’t work out well. Try to let it go today – just roll off your shoulders.

 

Because you’re having a baby and that’s awesome! Hopefully they’ll be great, but if not, they’ll probably come around. After all, babies are always a blessing. ; )

 

Congratulations!

ETA: If they continue to be rude or judgemental over the next few months, you might want to kindly point out that God’s plan is specifically designed to challenge each and every one of us (i.e., them) into being more kind, loving people. Maybe this is one of their challenges.  (I’m not religious, but I find when I put things in religious terms for other people it helps ground them into being better people.)

Post # 13
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1793 posts
Buzzing bee

Congratulations!  You know, they may well NOT take it well today because they don’t even like that you are living together.  As a mom of adult children myself, I can tell you that you need to give them time to process this.  It may be difficult for them but I’m betting they come around.

A long time ago in a land far far away I was a very young woman (as opposed to the Spring Chicken I am today) who was pregnant before the wedding and my guardians were furious that I had met someone older and we were getting married.  They were not religious people at all.  Just judgemental as Hell.  It took them awhile but they came around and my kids were like grandkids to them.

Give.them.time.  They will have to wrestle a bit with very deep seeded faith based beliefs (I am a Christian too).  They will come around, but today may not be all sunshine and roses.  Best of luck to you!

Post # 16
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2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Ninteenthchance:  🙁 ugh… I’m sorry, I’m sure they’ll come around 

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