Post # 1
My Mother is suggesting that my FI and I buy temporary cheap wedding bands just for the ceremony and buy the real ones later. Her argument is that because the wedding bands need to be Platinum (like the engagement ring), it will be too pricey to be able to get it now. I do agree with her on the pricey part but I’m willing to sacrifice other things in order to get both of our wedding band rings in Platinum.
I see her point but I don’t like the idea of having “fake” wedding bands and having them blessed and all that jazz at the ceremony only to never wear them again. Aren’t they supp to be symbolic?? I would still have to spend a few hundred bucks to get them. Shouldn’t I just apply that money to the real bands? I need some help on this topic!
Post # 3
We are getting less expensive bands for the actual ceremony. We’ve talked about it and the money saved will help with paying for the other wedding things. We’ll use anniversaries, birthdays etc down the road and upgrade at some point. I feel like the blessings on your wedding day are on the marriage, not the ring itself so I’m ok with changing them later. We are spending about $50 on mine and $30 on FI. Also if you do switch rings I’m sure you could bring them into your priest and ask him to bless them.
Post # 4
Sacrifice something else to buy your forever rings to wear on the day. I think there are a lot of important things to buy for the wedding, but for me, I’ll want to look down and see the ring that my sweetie gave me the day we got married.
Post # 7
I have several wedding bands– I ended up not liking the 1st one after wearing it for a while so I got a prettier one later. I also have a plain band I wear for comfort sometimes.
wedding rings are just a symbol, and I do not believe you have to be stuck with the same band forever, especially since styles and your taste can change over the years. also because original bands might get damaged over time and need to be replaced.
I think it’s a good idea to get a temp band for the wedding so you can hold out for the band of your dreams later.
if there is a ring on my left hand that looks like a wedding band, well then, that is telling the world I am married. honestly, it does not bother me that I no longer wear the band that was used during my wedding ceremony (except I’m a little annoyed that it was waste of money since it was expensive and I don’t use it). in fact, I hope to get new rings (many years) in the future so I can change them depending on what I feel like that day.
Post # 8
I agree with HelloSweetie. But I also see your mom’s point of view. What does your FH think?
Post # 9
Everything else that you’re sacrificing the ring for to buy will just be a memory the day after the wedding.
Post # 10
@BlissfullyEngaged: I would probably want the platinum ones now too if they were going to be blessed during the ceremony. You should check iweddingband.com if you’re getting plain bands. They have excellent prices. I have personally ordered through them, and the rings are excellent quality.
Post # 11
The match for my engagement ring cost a fortune, but not buying it wasn’t an option for me so I just built it into the budget. I want the ring that my fiance puts on my hand as he vows to love me forever to be the one I WEAR forever. Especially if you are doing any kind of ring blessing or warming, why would you want to bless a fake!?
Someone DID post yesterday about having a fake sparkly band though for the beach and stuff and I might grab me one of those for the HM 😉
Post # 12
We actually have low cost titanium wedding rings for our wedding day, because we couldn’t afford the palladium rings we wanted so soon. But we’ll both be upgrading together for an anniversary, so they’ll still be special for us.
Post # 13
Here’s our current wedding rings, his is plain titanium and mine is titanium with tiny diamonds
Post # 14
We had a cheapie sterling silver ring for my husband for the ceremony because his knuckles are so big, the ring we had sized to fit him would fit over with MUCH trouble.. so we got a large ring for the ceremony so I could slip it on without a show.
The white gold ring we sized for him has actually already been replaced (only married 2 years) with a titanium ring.
I have many wedding rings I wear for when I’m doing field work. No biggie.
Post # 15
We are in the same dilemma, kinda. We’re in the process of ring shopping and I finally picked the ring I wanted. The price of the setting alone was expensive (it has .76 in ct weight along the band and halo), then you factor it an extra $2,200 for platinum and it was getting pricy. The center stone has a cz already in it and we are keeping it that way for the first 9-12 months or so because he says he wants to get a nice diamond and he def can’t afford that at the moment. However, we don’t want to wait till fall to get engaged. I told him he doesn’t need to give me a ring to propose, I just want to be his fiancé because he means the world to me, but he refused to do such a thing. So I told him to just buy me a promise ring that he picks out and propose with that. Then when he can afford the e-ring (with cz center) I will wear that. Then in about a year when he finishes residency, he will buy me the round center stone diamond, which I told him I don’t want any say in, in terms of clarity and color. That’s also when he would get the matching band in platinum setting. So that’s our plan. I honestly don’t mind. I just want to be engaged to him and begin planning our life together.
However, by the day of the wedding, I would like to have my engagement ring complete, with the center stone diamond put in, along with band, and the honey agrees. So in your case, I say you should try your best to save up for the rings. They symbolize so much and I think you will regret not having the real rings in your ceremony after it’s all been said and done. Especially when your wedding pictures come in.
When is your wedding? Do you have time to save until then? It’s worth not having a ring on your hand now in order to have the right one on your hand the day of the wedding, if that is an option.