Tempting to open envelope with ring info! Plus ring guilt setting in….

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Jewelieee:  Yep! My ring cost about twice what my car did. It’s a crazy feeling!

Post # 4
3635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Jewelieee:  Not at all.  My husband is a grown-ass man, and he made the decision and was very aware of every dollar he was spending when he typed in that credit card number. 

I love my ring and what it means.  We could afford it.  He got me exactly what I wanted within his budget and nothing will make me feel guilty about that.

Post # 5
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

My SO is in school (and will be for the next 3 years), so he got a loan from his parents to pay for my ring. I don’t know EXACTLY how much it cost, but I know the range, and it is way way way more than I would have ever wanted him to spend on it. Truthfully, I know nothing about diamonds or engagement rings, so I guess I don’t really know how much these things cost, but he ended up spending double the amount I thought he would. And I feel horrible, especially since it’s a loan and he will have to pay his parents back when he finishes law school. 

After he bought it (he still hasn’t proposed), I told him that it was really unnecessary for him to borrow that much to spend on a ring. He told me that it was something he really wanted to do for me and that he wanted to buy me a “forever” ring right off the bat (we had talked about buying something much cheaper for now). He got really sentimental about how this ring is something I will have forever and that was what he wanted. So, while I wish he hadn’t spent quite as much, I know I will love it and it will be a really special thing that I will treasure and love forever. That he put so much thought and effort into finding “the one” means so much more than the price tag.

The way you’re feeling is not unusual, but try to think of it in terms of the sentimental meaning rather than how much it cost. I’m sure you will love it!

Post # 7
8282 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

You’re a better person than I am. I would have opened that envelope in a heartbeat! I do have all the paper work on my ring, so I know everything anyway. But that suspense would kill me. 

Post # 8
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Jewelieee:  OMG I wouldn’t have the willpower to not look! lol.  And no, I didn’t feel guilty about what my DH spent on my ring. It was his choice, he set the budget and he wanted to buy it for me.  We both love my ring and he’s proud he was able to buy it for me, so I see it as a win-win!

Post # 10
1470 posts
Bumble bee

I knew everything about my ring, as I picked it out myself. I never saw it assembled until he proposed and it was pretty nice for that to be my first look so I’m glad I didn’t break into the safe to sneak a peek! The paperwork though, I probably would have looked because I’m really into diamonds and gems and jewelry, so specifications do it for me lol

However, I’d recommend not looking because you’re probably going to get a notion of what the ring looks like based on stats and that might set you up because you can’t really tell anything from the info-you have to see the stone itself.

As for ring guilt…nope. I know my FI, if he couldn’t afford it, there’s no way in hell he would have bought it-I’m cute but not that cute haha.


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