(Closed) Tension galore!!!!!! Advice please!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Wedding planning is STRESSFUL and this can definitely take it’s toll on your relationship. Plan something fun, like a date night out or do something you’ve never done before,

And, if you are taking away the “nightly fun” then prepare to deal with a whiney-hiney FI. Mine would be one cranky pants! Hang in there!

Post # 4
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9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

It sounds like you two have a lot on your plate right now.  I agree with Legallyblondiebride.  You two should set aside a nice, relaxing date night.

Post # 5
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986 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think removing the sex from your relationship is a bad idea.  I dont think it will make it more exciting.  He may end up too bitter and it puts so much pressure on the wedding night.   Dr. Laura (who I rarely agree with) said something I will never forget.  

A woman needs to feel loved to have sex

A man needs to have sex to feel loved

I will almost guarantee that your ‘issues’ are steming from the lack of sex. 

Post # 6
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1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We didn’t give up sex and the last couple of months were still brutal.  Around Christmas, we had a few nights of parties and the like where the wedding wasn’t the focus and it was SO HELPFUL.  Get out and do something non-wedding centric!

Immediately after the wedding, things went totally back to normal and we are blissfuly again ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MrsTimmy:  Ah, Dr. Laura. I also agree with that statement — I guess even a broken watch is right twice a day!

My FI is out of town so I THOUGHT that would make things better for me as I work on DIY projects and spread craft crap everywhere without him bothering me. Turns out, the tension I’m feeling has skyrocketed without him! Headaches, stiff shoulders, trouble sleeping …

I bet it’s because I’m not getting any. For serious.

Post # 8
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986 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@iarebridezilla:  then go surprise your man….lol.    or have a skype visit with him.  ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 9
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9629 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Mrs.DsBeeloved:  Oh yeah, sexual deprivation will do that every time.  What on earth are you thinking??!!  LOL.  Just kidding.  What you’re going through is just normal stress, most likely!  Happens to everyone now and again.

Post # 10
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4416 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MrsTimmy:  Oh man, if only!!! He’s in the military and got suckered into evaluating soldiers trying to get a prestigious badge-thing … so he’s currently staying barracks-style in a tent in the middle of BFE with a bunch of other dudes, like it’s basic training or something. At least I know he’s suffering more than I am … ?

He’ll be back next weekend and all will be well in the world again. And thankfully I’m getting dragged out of the house away from my DIY programs tonight. Good thing, because I was about to just throw them all in the fire!

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