- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Hey Bees! I’m a long time reader, first time poster!
Anyhow, I have this Bridesmaid or Best Man, she has been such a flake! And now my Maid/Matron of Honor tells me she has just flaked on the stagette this weekend! She practically begged to be in the wedding party, and at the time I didn’t really realize how unreliable she is. A brief history of her wedding behaviour thus far:
She pitched a fit about not going dress shopping with me (I just took my sister my, Future Mother-In-Law, and my aunt), and then when I told her she could come with me to pick it up she bailed with a weak excuse.
She didn’t come to my shower, even though she knew about it over a month in advance, and lives locally. She had to work (we worked at the same place and she didn’t even ask to get the day off), and then said she couldn’t come on her break because she was working on her resume. Then she tried to blame my sister for not telling her where it was.
When I confronted her about how disappointed I was she didn’t make the effort she cried and promised to do better and that she would make it up to me. After this conversation I asked her to help me on three different occasions, but she was always ‘busy’.
And now she won’t come to the stagette, I don’t even care to know the reason why.
(There has been other stuff, but this is already really long). I know there have been lots of bad bridesmaid posts, but I want to know if people think I’m being unreasonable kicking her out. The FH and I talked about it, and he told me he never really liked her, but would never stand in the way of me being friends with someone, so he is cool with kicking her out. I’m just concerned because the big day is 2 weeks away, and at this point I don’t know if she’d even show up for that!
All comments are appreciated!
(Also just FYI its not a financial issue for her)