Post # 1
They aren’t really wedding related, but I keep having bad dreams about me and FI. Usually he neglects me to run off with a short blond, choosing to spend time with her instead of me. In some we are about to die in a horrible accident and I say, “I love you more than anything,” and his response is a bored/uncaring sounding “love you too.” Last night I dreamed we had a huge fight and he said he didn’t love me anymore and wanted to break up. . .
Anyone else have horrible dreams like this? I wish I knew what they meant and that I could stop having them. I know FI loves me so much and is loyal and devoted. I always feel awful and scared when I wake up. 🙁
Post # 3
I have dreams like this ALL the time. The worst part is that I am a sleep talker so FI can usually tell when I’ve had a bad night.
FI is really understanding so I usually wake up and hug him really hard and tell him my dreams. He usually just says “Baby, you so cray-zzzzz” or “Oh man I love you so much… you know I would never do anything to hurt you”. It makes me feel better.
Hopefully one day they will go away.
edit: I think the reason I have these is because of I have had some really shitty relationships in the past, so I guess the feeling of being hurt just haunts me. I know that he is NOTHING like anyone I have ever dated so it is just my own insecurities.
Post # 4
@tranquility: I’m glad I’m not alone!
Post # 6
the weirdest dream about my FI I ever had, was we owned a glass underwater hotel in the middle of the ocean, and one day he left me and ran away with a whale in a blonde wig!!! swimming away into the sunset lol! 😉
Post # 7
@Miss LusterDust: I’m actually kind of glad you posted this because all last week I kept having silly dreams about my fiancee turning the corner. In my dreams, he’d found some cute little blonde also and when I caught them together, he told me he didn’t exactly know if he could commit to me in marriage after all. It was so devestating. I don’t know about you, but when I woke up, I felt downtrodden and unsure because the dream felt so real to me.
I also have had a history of cheaters in my early dating days, but one of them was particularly bad. I think I’m still nursing those wounds in my subconscious. It isn’t healthy to project them onto my FH, but I have no control over dream-land. When I’m awake though, I trust him fully, and his actions speak so loudly that I’d be crazy to think he’s interested in leaving me. He loves me so much. When I take the time to notice and appreciate all the ways in which he shows it, I almost feel foolish for letting a dream get to me the way it does.
Mostly, I think it may be nerves associated with the continuum of marriage. Marriage isn’t a final goal — it’s a state of constant work. I have to put effort into maintaining that relationship, and I do know that in the back of my mind, I wonder if I will make a good enough wife. I’ve never done it before– in 10 or 20 years, will he still find me as cute and loveable as the day he married me? These are uncertainties, and no one has the ability to predict the future. I think these dreams are a means to tell me to be a vigilant wife, and to appreciate what I do have with him. That’s the best we can do, really.
Post # 8
@StuporDuck: I agree. We can only try our best.
It’s kind of of funny that it’s blondes for all of us, haha.