terrified about a break in

posted 3 years ago in Home
Post # 3
757 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Pixie26:  Would installing a home-security system help? A friend of mine was having the same anxiety since they moved from a secure apt building to a single family home.  Once they installed a system, she felt much more at ease.

Post # 5
1646 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Pixie26:  i can be the same way. i always lived in apartments, now we have a house.


For me, a security system, dog, etc seemed more extreme and I wanted to find ways to fix the way I was thinking, instead of fixing external things to appease my anxiety.


I still struggle. I still have a hard time sleeping if FI isn’t home. But I feel like I’m doing better.


Write a list of reasons why your home is safe.

Write down the sounds you hear and your immediate reaction

i.e.: “loud bang” “someone is breaking in”

then write down what it really was

“heater system kicking on”


eventually it trains your brain to go from the sound to the real explanation. writing it down really plants it in your head.

Post # 6
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Honesty, I got a cat (Fine… 3 cats).

I didn’t feel safe without something in the house with me!

Though sometimes all three of them would suddently look in the same direction (generally down a dark hallway) at the same time, and that was pretty freaky, too!

Post # 7
4089 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Pixie26:   Could you get a dog?   I feel much safer having a dog in the home.  And we have a security system!   I read somewhere that you can even put a large dog dish outside the door, so a potential burglar might think you have a dog and go elsewhere.

Post # 9
952 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I was like this when I lived in Vegas. I sometimes wouldn’t fall asleep until the sun was coming up.

What I realized was that it was my anxiety and nothing to do with the house. I was not in a great place in my life right then and it was manifesting itself that way. Once my anxiety was gone, I no longer feared the house.

But we are moving to a country that isnt as safe, (though the town we are moving to is acually pretty safe). But we are getting a security system, electric fence and motion lights (normal there and it is a big property) and a big dog. So hopefully, my anxiety wont come back 🙂

Post # 10
352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Invest in a couple cameras that surround your house and a security system! It will help put your mind at ease. 🙂

Post # 11
536 posts
Busy bee

Something like 65% of burglaries occur during the daytime when no one is at home, if that’s any comfort.

I’d get an alarm.  If you’re really concerned, call your local police department.  They can send a detective out to take a look at your home and make security recommendations.  If you have a specific reason to be concerned, you can also request additional patrols in your area.

Post # 12
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I hope this isn’t counter productive, but another good thing to keep in mind is that homes are very rarely broken into while you are home. It is a pain, but somehow less scary to know you wouldn’t  be home if it did happen. I don’t live it a great neighborhood and have been broken into twice. I wasn’t home either time and they would have had to carefully plan that. If you decide not to put in an alarm system, you can put up face stickers (buy online) and those can be a good deterrent. 

Post # 14
352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Pixie26:  absolutely! You could probably link it to you phone as well, which would be great to check up on your house when you’re on vacation too!

Post # 15
307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I am the same way. I couldn’t sleep AT ALL when my husband was not at home. Then I was so exhausted, I would lay down on the couch downstairs so that I could HEAR if someone was trying to break in. I got a home security system and that put me at ease A LOT. Then I got a dog but he doesn’t help much because he barks at everything – deer, butterflies, everything. Finally, I moved to a new house with the master on the ground floor. Now with that, plus the security system and the dog, I sleep like a baby!

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