Terrified I might be pregnant. FI doesn't want kids!

posted 3 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Umm… try not to freak out until you take a pregnancy test!

Post # 4
844 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I had that same type of scenario happen multiple times when I was younger.  Each time I bought a test I would invariably start my period the next day.  Try not to stress too much!  You’ll know tomorrow.  Make sure you get a First Response Early Response (otherwise known as a FRER)  They tend to be the most accurate!  Good luck!

Post # 5
2546 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

you’re probably not pregnant!

Post # 6
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Take a test if it will put your mind at ease.

Post # 7
657 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@HonoraryNerd:  Same thing happened to me last week! I ended up getting my period 2 days before I started my next pack and it only lasted about 2-3 days. Birthcontrol can really mess with your hormones and your cycle.

Post # 9
234 posts
Helper bee

@HonoraryNerd:  I am the same, start friday and it lightens up by Sunday, but have a bit for the next couple of days… It’s been this way for the past 4 years.

That being said, one time I did not start my period until Monday late at night, a few days after I should have start. I was pretty worried until it started.

I would still buy the pregnancy test, and if you have to start your next pack before you use the pregnancy test, just take the pills like you normally would and stop immediately if you are pregnant. I haven’t heard of anyone having problems taking BC in the first month of pregnancy when they were unaware.

Post # 10
3659 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Take a test. However, if you’re using birth control perfectly, it’s very unlikely that you’re pregnant. Also, birth control pills won’t harm a fetus/embryo/baby. They’re synthetic pregnancy hormones.

Post # 11
186 posts
Blushing bee

Take a test! No need in worrying about something that you aren’t sure about yet!

I hope I don’t offend anyone by saying this, but being pregnant doesn’t have to lead to becoming a parent. Test as soon as possible, and if you are indeed pregnant, get to the doctor and discuss your options. If neither one of you want kids, you don’t have to have kids.

Post # 12
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@HonoraryNerd:  Hold off on freaking out until you have a positive test.  About once a year I have a late and light period while on birth control pills.  It’s freaky but I have gotten used to it.  Test before starting your next pack but I would still recommend starting your next pack on time and testing again just to be safe.

Otherwise, does he not want kids ever?  Or is it just he doesn’t want kids right now?  He’s pretty young to make that decision so I am not surprised by his position.  You’ve been dating for a year so it’s probably a good idea for you to do some soul searching to figure out if you want kids some day or not and then discuss his position with him to make sure you’re on the same page.

Post # 14
7664 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Don’t worry until you test positive. We’ve all been there with pregnancy scares. Don’t worry until you know for sure that it is actually an issue.

Post # 15
1007 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@HonoraryNerd:  Any update as to the freak-out? Have you peed on a stick already? Let us know, we’re worried about ya!

Post # 16
944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

breathe, if you take a test and it’s positive just wait a week until theres less tension between the 2 of you before you tell him. one thing you do have is plenty of time, don’t worry bee, everything will work out the way its intended to. just breathe! 

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