Terrified No One Will Come to My Shower

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Coral99:  I definitely won’t have that many friends at my shower… first of all I don’t think I have that many friends and second of all most of them won’t be able to come anyways because they live all over the country and will only be able to afford coming to my wedding, IF that. So nothing to worry about! Do you have family coming? Really, you’re more normal than you might think. 

Sorry all of that falling out has happened to you 🙁 it happened to me too with getting engaged, graduating college, etc. It’s tough but really there are only a handful of people in life who are your real friends. 

Post # 4
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474 posts
Helper bee

Dude, yes.

Some family friends who are amazing hosts and extremely generous offered to throw a couples shower for me and FH. I agreed to it, but I should have known to suggest that someone with more “timeliness” do the invitations.

Instead the daughter of the family did them and sent them out 6 days before the shower. People were getting ~1/2 days notice!!!! Plus, the invitations didn’t really spell out some of the things that I thought were important, like the fact that there was going to be a meal served, and that the hosts were family friends (otherwise totally unknown to all of the invitees). We invited, oh, ~25 couples, and there were only about 12 people there total, including the hosts, our parents, and us. 

Emotionally I felt kind of split – half of me was very thankful, and had a good time, but half of me was MORTIFIED. The problem is that I feel like it reflects poorly on ME, and that I look like an idiot who throws awkward social functions.

I think the best way to approach something like this is to just accept the “numbers” for what they are, and try to have a good time, even if it’s an intimate affair. Or, if you really think it would be awkward and you don’t want to be the center of attention in a small group, just pass on it?

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