Terrified of delivery…Anyone else?

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth by Ina May Gaskin is really wonderful for helping to demystify birth and defuse fear. There are a lot of aspects of birth that can definitely be frightening, but they don’t have to be. I found that this book helped a lot.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You need to go and read a TON of positive birth stories – Ina May Gaskin’s Guide to Childbirth is a GREAT place to start. The human race wouldn’t have survived this long if it was all as bad as some people make it out to be, and women certainly wouldn’t go back for more kids after the first. I think it’s important to be knowledgeable, confident and calm.

(I’ll let you know if this works for me in approximately 2 weeks time… Haha)

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

@hamikay:  Love it!

(And good luck and best wishes to you as you get ready to give birth!)

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

@IUrebekah3RT:  Ina May is an advocate of natural childbirth, but her book is worth reading even if you would rather have a higher degree of intervention, simply because she does such a great job of explaining the process as each stage unfolds, what to expect, and how it advances your baby’s birth. That’s useful to know even if you plan to have an epidural, and it’s key for helping allay your fears about birth.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@IUrebekah3RT:  You only see the horrible situations!  There’s a million babies born every day that are happy and healthy and get to go home with their parents.  Try not to get all your stories from work or people ranting – it gives you a totally skewed perspective.  The vast majority of births go uneventfully.  I know it’s hard to turn off your anxiety, but you’ll do great!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@IUrebekah3RT:  No I mean, it’s scary to think about.  But there’s something about the beauty and strength and joy surrounding birth that just makes me excited.  So I’m trying to focus on that, and not all the things I’m scared of.  Our mothers did it, and so did theirs, and we can too.  And even all those moms who have birth “horror stories” will still smile and tell you it was worth it, and they’d go through it again in a heartbeat for their little one.  So that’s gotta tell you something.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@IUrebekah3RT:  I think most women are terrified! I refuse to get scared until that day comes though. Which will be in about 6 months. tons of people have done it and been just fine. As it gets closer for me I am getting excited (but still scared) about being a le to do something so amazing. I know I’m strong and can handle it. It doesn’t hurt knowing some of my friends who are total whimps did it and were just fine!!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@IUrebekah3RT:  I think lots of women are terrified of birth now, and that our culture really doesn’t support anything else! 

I did a great course here in Australia called calmbirth, and the philosophy is that if you have no fear or tension, then you shouldn’t experience childbirth as pain, just intense pressure. I think it’s loosely based on hypnobirthing in the US. The good thing about the course though, was that our instructor emphasised that using drugs wasn’t a failure, so you didn’t feel pressured to have a natural birth (even though that’s what I’m aiming for).

In terms of the “tiny hole”, you need to adjust your thinking there! Think about sex – if you have fear or tension about it then it can be quite painful, but if you are relaxed then it should be pleasurable (not suggesting that childbirth will be pleasurable… Although some women do report they experience orgasm!!). This is what our bodies were designed to do, from bone structure to the hormone and chemical reactions.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@IUrebekah3RT:  Ha, I was terrified of it from about the age of 10 🙂

Eventually I decided that I was going to just get pregnant and deal with it (and did!). Just like I got over fear of flying by boarding a plane. Once you’re on a plane, there’s (almost) no way out, you’re flying. And once you’re pregnant, there’s no way out, that baby is coming out one way or another!

I was also reassured about the quality of pain relief available. In that sense, your OBGYN’s “nothing to worry about” comment is correct. Women in childbirth are looked after very, very well these days.

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