(Closed) Terrified of dress shopping

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I had the same worries and everything turned out to be fine! I only looked at dresses in my price range, brought my best friend with me who was super supportive, and had a wonderful consultant. I’m sure it will go lovely for you as well and I think it’s normal to be nervous.

Post # 4
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5015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Dress shopping was SO much fun!! Seriously I want to do it all over! Don’t be scared, they treat you like royalty (at least at the private boutiques) and it’s really hard not to look beautiful in a wedding dress 🙂

Post # 5
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1847 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I wouldn’t worry, you’ll have fun!

Im no size 2 and I was terrified that I would look like a blimp in my dress, because I just can’t get rid of these 10-15 pounds. Total opposite.. If I could at wedding dresses everyday and get away with it, I’d probably have the words highest self esteem, because those things make you look GOOD!! 

They suck you in (especially corset backs) and they have boning so they basically give you the shape that is “ideal” (hourglass). 

Have an open mind and have fun

Post # 6
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1592 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

If you asked me two weeks ago, I’d say yes, it was bad. Now, I say no.

I’m heavy but not my heaviest by any means, so while I’m upset with my size, I’m not super uncomfortable. I was mainly dreading not finding something in my price range ($1,000) and my mom being crazy.

I asked too many (four) people the first time around, and I was super anxious about my figure. I didn’t have fun. I also didn’t find the dress. My mom was pretty opinionated and I also felt like I wasn’t going to find anything great in my range. My experience with David’s was sucky even though I’ve been there plenty of times.

The second time around, only my best friend and my mom could come. I called stores first to make sure they had a decent selection in my price range. I ended up finding a store with David’s Bridal prices that was a lot more personal.

If I could go back a month, I’d tell myself not to stress and enjoy shopping. Go in with photos and ideas, but be a little open. Don’t be afraid to say no though once something is on and you hate it. (For me, that was mermaid).

Oh, and bring water and snacks. I was so thirsty and cranky the first time!

Post # 7
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263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My wedding isn’t until October 2014 but I’m dreading dress shopping. I don’t feel skinny enough and I’m dreading being in my undies with someone I don’t know, ugh. So, I’ve yet to look for dresses and probably won’t do so until I lose some weight.

Post # 8
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199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I sincerely do not enjoy shopping, particularly clothes shopping, so wedding dress shopping wasn’t any different: just not my thing.  That said, when I told my consultant (who was also the shop owner) my budget, she 100% stayed in it.  In fact, my budget was $500 and I got a $200 dress.  Go her!  That part was a pleasant surprise.

Post # 9
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119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I feel the exact same way. It’s mostly about my weight for me. And that I’m scared the style of dresses I’ve found will be out of my budget. 

I’m putting off trying on dresses for another few months. I really want to lose like 10 pounds first, so that I know I’m judging the dress and not my body. 

I’m very nervous about it!

Post # 10
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240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I felt almost the exact same way.  As a non-girly girl, i found the entire experience terrifying cause i felt really out of place…let’s just say i’m the type of person who never really wanted a wedding. LOL.  HOWEVER, on my second dress shopping day i found my dress!  If i can find something that makes my heart skip a beat, anyone can!!!

Post # 11
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533 posts
Busy bee

Yep! I live on jeans and tees. I haven’t worn a dress since I was like 4. My skin on my back isn’t fantastic, eczema etc. So I felt like shit doing this whole dress thing. Thankfully I was taken care of and they tried to make me feel more comfortable. 

Post # 12
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1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@JLR1982:  I had that fear and ended up buying a dress I didn’t like (we cancelled our wedding and are having a vow renewal in February, so now I’m trying to convince myself to try again).  

For me, it’s scary because I feel like I look ridiculous in wedding dresses, whereas other women look so beautiful and blissful and attractive in theirs.  I wear dresses in everyday life, but I even skipped prom because I hate the way I look in formal gowns.  

I wish I had something helpful to say, but it just was a horrible experience for me.  I just wanted you to know you weren’t alone in feeling that way.  Fortunately, I think most people end up finding a dress they love.

Post # 13
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8044 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@JLR1982:  I would take only a few people max to the appointment. Too many opinions = confusion. Take someone who will be honest yet supportive. You don’t want someone being brutally honest, but you don’t want someone who says you look great in everything either.

I am sure it will be fine, though!

Post # 14
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839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I had so much fun shopping. I thought I would look terrible in most styles and that wasn’t the case. Most looked very good on me. I suggest trying on all different silhouettes. Good luck.

Post # 15
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635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’ve already been once…but I’m terrified to go again! I’ve gained at least 10 pounds since then, and I was already bigger than I wanted to be, so I’m really worried about how I will look. I’m actually considering going to a couple of places by myself to try on as much as possible without driving anyone else crazy…and then bringing people with me when I’m ready to narrow it down. I’m hyper-aware about time, and I hate making people wait around for me to do anything!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m the same. I’m plus size and over 35 so the idea filled me with dread.

In the end, I had figured out that most likely I would be getting my dress made by a dressmaker, so trying on dresses was just so I could get an idea of what suited me (though I would have bought something if it was perfect).

I only went to a specialist plus size place, and it was on a weekday so it was just me and the attendant in the store. She made me feel relaxed and I didn’t feel too bad about my size. There were plenty of dresses in my size to try on (I think I tried on about 6 or 7). I was genuinely surprised by how good some of them looked on me, but I still felt ridiculous wearing them (that is a whole other issue – I’m just not a bride-y kind of girl).

For you, it may be worth doing a bit of research first before shopping, especially if you are plus size. Some David Bridals have lots of options for plus sizes and plenty of dresses in your size to try on – others less so. If you can find a good one then it may be a good place to start, simply because you’ll always get the best idea of what suits you if you can try it on in your size. Just make sure you pick your most supportive friends to go with you. (Sometimes mothers are just TOO honest – know what I mean?)

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