Terrified of giving birth…

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Are/were you terrified of giving birth?
    I am terrified of the idea (no kids yet) : (110 votes)
    55 %
    I was terrified but it wasn't as bad as I imagined : (15 votes)
    8 %
    I wasn't terrified and it was worse than I imagined : (7 votes)
    4 %
    I was terrified and it was worse than I imagined : (9 votes)
    5 %
    I'm not scared, we were made for this : (45 votes)
    23 %
    I have a different opinion : (10 votes)
    5 %
    I wasn't terrified and it wasn't as bad as I imagined : (4 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m not as scared of birth as I am the recovering. I think I can deal with the intense pain for a few hours, especailly with getting an epideral. But the way people describe the recovery and just annoying uncomfortableness for weeks, that’s what’s going to drive me crazy I think, especailly when you’re getting no sleep and taking care of a new baby. Hopefully I’m wrong though!

    Post # 4
    6632 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We all do it is normal to think this, but you just need to remember women have been giving birth since the beginning of time.  Your body is made to do that. You go through it, then you get this little bundle of joy and you forget all about the pain.   

    Post # 5
    1208 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2004

    @MsGinkgo:  Lots of people feel that way.  But no one would have second and third (and 4th and so on..) babies if it were that bad!  I’ve got 2.  Both birthing experience very different.  Both very painful.  But I’m alive and well and hoping God blesses us with one more in a few years 🙂

    Post # 7
    9526 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @MsGinkgo:  I’m with you. Except I’m also terrified of pregnanncy and the first few months of sleep deprivation. I’m going with the method of assuming it’s going to be horrible and if it’s only bad I’ll be pleasantly surprised.

    Post # 8
    3368 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I have a different opinion…

    I was terrified of giving birth in the early stages of pregnancy.  Then as the months progessed it was less and less terrifying.  By the end I was scared but not terrified.  And it was about as bad as thought it would be.  

    But I’m ready to try again for Baby #2!  So yes, when it is over, you pretty much forget it!  While at the same tine feeling like a superhero!

    Post # 9
    931 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I’m more terrified of how long my morning sickness is going to last to be honest as opposed to the actual thought of giving birth.

    Post # 10
    7192 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I was terrified, and it wasn’t as bad as I expected. This is in large part due to the epidural I had. It was the best thing ever.

    Post # 11
    197 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I’m terrified. Facts can’t reason with anxiety. Some women have a real phobia of childbirth. 

    Check out the article below (sorry on my phone so it isn’t linking) and do some research.


    Post # 12
    76 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    On paper, yes the whole thing kind of sucks…the morning sickness, giving birth, the late nights…but honestly it is all worth it for me. I’m still early so I’m dealing with nausea, heatburn, fatigue, etc. on a daily basis. Yes my digestive system is completely revolting against me, but I’m not complaining because it is for a good cause – I just kind of deal with it without having the symptoms consume the whole process of being pregnant. Seeing my little baby move in the ultrasounds and having that love in my life is so worth the physical discomfort. 

    I haven’t given birth yet and I am scared of that, but I have a few months to prepare so I’ll cross that bridge when I get to it. I’m just trying to be positive and remember my body is meant to be used and lived in. I’m so excited to grow our little family and I do have the overwhleming support of my husband and family, so that helps me get through the not so fun aspects of it. 

    Post # 13
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    You have to remember that you dont get knocked up and push out a baby the next day Unexpectedly. You have 9 months to research, discuss with your doctor, get comfortable with your body etc… yes I have moments where I worry I won’t be able to handle natural birth, which is what I want to try for but I know I can only do my best and yes, we are made to give birth. 

    Post # 14
    2074 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @ceemarie7:  interesting. I really relate to the opinions in that article. Thanks for posting!

    Post # 15
    1059 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

    I’m looking forward to labor and birth, but I’m weird and kind of an experience junkie. I love physical challenges and doing crazy things… and since we’re pretty strongly in the one kid camp, I don’t get to do this again. So while I don’t anticipate it will be fun or pleasant, and there are things about birthing that make me nervous, it certainly doesn’t terrify me. I’m much more worried about surviving the transitional months afterwards!


    Post # 16
    14 posts


    hi there! I too can relate to your fear of “birthing”.  I have always been EXTREMELY uncomfortable in even routine ( non ob) gyn appointments, and would procrastinate like a crazy person etc. etc. The thought of multiple people putting instruments, fingers, lights..and whatever else ..during the birth process truly turned me off having kids for many years…to the point where I was 37 at the time my dd was born. I opted for a c-section, and couldn’t be more happy with my choice. My doc was extremely understanding from the first appointment, and as time went on, she said “you definitely made the right call”. I guess I must’ve appeared sufficiently paranoid!!! 

    Some people start off as I did, and change their mind later on in their pregnancy, but I think if you feel strongly about it, ask for an elective c-section (if it is something you aren’t opposed to)   And then change your mind if you want to!

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