TERRIFIED of trying on dresses!!!!

posted 3 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What should I do?
    Plan a date with bridesmaids and friends and bring them, even though I am unsure : (7 votes)
    11 %
    Just go shopping alone and let go of the fear : (40 votes)
    63 %
    Purchase undergarments before going : (13 votes)
    21 %
    Purchase undergarments at the bridal salon to match what style I am trying on? : (3 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    601 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @Jesserlynn:  Maybe go by yourself the first time so you can get a good idea of what you like. Then when you’ve narrowed it down, you can bring mom and or bridesmaids.

    On these boards, a lot of brides have posted what they’ve used for undergarments. So you can always go with one of their suggestions. I don’t think it’s the end of the world if they end up peaking out of the dress while trying on. I mean you don’t really know what your dress is going to look like yet right (low back, straps, etc)? So how could you know what the appropriate undergarment should be?

    Post # 4
    309 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Don’t worry about the undergarments. It’s not until you get to fittings that you need the exact things you plan on wearing. I wore spanx and just my everyday bra, and tucked the straps into the strapless dresses so they weren’t showing, and it was perfect. The spanx helped the dresses slip over my hips too actually.


    Going alone won’t be as scary as you think. I pre-warned a few of the places I went to because I was a bit nervous about what they would say, but they were really helpful, didn’t bat an eyelid and I found the perfect dress while on my own.


    Take a big breath, and start searching! It might take a while, and really it’s not practical to go with the same people to every appointment… I went to 7 boutiques.

    Post # 5
    2429 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I took a good strapless bra with me, which I think helps the way the sample dresses fit.

    Also, if you think it will add stress to have a bunch of girlfriends there, I recommend either going alone or just taking one trusted friend with you. Too many opinions when you have more than two people accompanying you!

    Post # 6
    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room

    Don’t worry! I only wore panties (no bra) for trying on dresses and it worked out just fine for all 6 shops I went to. They don’t care… and if they think you need something underneath, they have longline bras there on hand.

    As for going alone or not.. I took my MOH because she makes me laugh. Don’t bring a whole crowd of people, bring one or two people that you know will lift you up and support you. If a dress gets “stuck” and you can’t try it on… try to take it with good humor. Even I got stuck in at least 4 dresses and I’m of average size.

    Don’t be afraid of trying on dresses that aren’t your style or look weird on the hanger. If it’s terrible, then it should be a good laugh, right? And if you can, take pictures of all the dresses! It will help you narrow it down later.

    Post # 7
    332 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    The first time at a bridal salon is always the hardest in my opinion.  I went to David’s Bridal with a strapless bra and some boyshorts.  They lent me a longline bra and a crinoline to try dresses on.  It was like wearing a big plain white dress, so I didn’t feel too exposed, even when the door was open.  The second salon I went to, they offered to lend me undergarments, but I already had my bra and my Rago shapewear ready to go.  I wouldn’t worry 🙂


    Post # 8
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Go shopping alone, and buy your under things AFTER you buy your dress, at definitely NOT at the bridal shop! They will charge you both arms and both legs!

    My crinoline would have been $85 at the bridal shop… I paid $23 new on Ebay!

    And remember, dress shopping is FUN!

    If you feel pushed or pressured, leave the store. You’re not going to have a good dress experience like that!

    Post # 9
    387 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2014 - Windstar on Naples bay

    dont be afraid! i was so nervous because im a plus size bride. but if the bridal shop has good consultants they’ll make you feel right at home. i went right after work so didnt have time to change, but they gave me a bra and crioline to wear underneath the dress. it was good too because both items gave me the shape i needed to look good. 😀 While i brought my mom, her godmother (because mom wants her more involved as shes in the whole “I’m old and going to die before the wedding” mode) and a really trusted friend… i selected these people carefully because youd be surprised at how much the opnions of others can affect you. so going alone would be awesome its just you and the consultant who will be unbiased. 🙂 dont worry its a lot of fun. im disapointed i dont get to go shopping anymore! XD

    Post # 10
    1400 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    If you have a friend who lives in the same city as you, maybe not real close but someone who you think will be very positive,  maybe bring her/him?

    Post # 11
    50 posts
    Worker bee

    I went for the first time in October to try on dresses with my aunt, she’s brutally honest. We narrowed down styles that I did and didn’t like then I had my mom, FMIL and some other friends and family come along to select a dress.  It was much easier having already tried on some gowns to know what style I loved and didn’t like.  Don’t worry about the undergarments, they should have strapless bras to try on with the gowns.

    Post # 13
    1102 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Awe don’t freak out sweetie it will be fun 😀 its really fun

    If you don’t know what you like they will help you find out, just wear a strapless bra and nice panties that you feel confy in that u know wont make werid lines once you choose a dress you can pick a bra speical for it or even a corset type thing 


    Bring 1 friend, your best friend you know the one who can read you like a book. My bestie took me and just me (her and her mom head butt on style and a few of her other friends tend to really be pushy and not care what she likes) 

    What your gonna do is have fun try on lots hate some love others, you may find your self torn bettween 2 dresses or you might just know… if your torn ask your friend if she tells you her fav and you defend the other dress … that dress is your dress if you think hmm she might be right then you know you didnt really love that other dress.

    Just go have fun, i did go with my mom and found i was lacking that best friend who helps you and knows what you really like… I have to go again lol but i only tired like 8 dresses (i loved them all) 

    its important to just go have fun dont bring to many ppl and when all else fails try on a veil even if you don think you anan war one you might be shocked by the power of a veil to make you see the bride lol 

    and then when you do your fittings ask his mom and your friends to come its really fun and then they still feel like part of the dress 🙂 



    Post # 14
    3394 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I think given your hesitation, you should do a solo trip first to get an idea of what you like, don’t like, and maybe make a short list of contenders. Then you can do a second visit with your bridesmaids, family etc for their opinions. I think it could be a recipe for disaster if you do your maiden trip to try on dresses with an entourage, you might end up confused and discouraged or at worst – end up with a dress you don’t love because you’re pressured into it.

    I would definitely buy good foundation garments before you go and wear them on the day so you get the best effect – just some Spanx or something, you probably don’t even need a bra because most dresses are so corsetted you don’t need an additional bra underneath.

    Post # 15
    1110 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @Jesserlynn:  Go by yourself to get a feel for what you love!!

    As far as underwear, if you mean shapewear for your hips/legs/bum, that can’t hurt to get beforehand, but if you mean a longline bra/corset/something for your top, DEFINITELY WAIT…. I got a Maggie Sottero dress, and I won’t need any bra at all with it… literally, nothing up top! And I’m a 36DDD, so I NEVER go braless. Haha.

    If you find a well-constructed dress, you may not need any bra at all, so why waste the money (those longline bridal corset type bras are EXPENSIVE!).

    But I’m super self-conscious about my hips/bum (street size 16), so I bought a Rago shapewear piece for my lower half (btw, Rago is AMAZING.. so much better than Spanx because it doesn’t shift or bunch or roll at all!). I didn’t buy it BEFORE dress shopping, but made sure I had it when it came time for alterations! And it definitely makes a difference! 🙂



    You don’t have very much time at this point, but most bridal salons will have samples they’d be willing to sell you for cheaper! 🙂


    Good luck!



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