Post # 1
My fiance and I recently bumped our wedding date, and now I’m in crunch time planning mode, we went from August 2014 to October 5th 2013. NOW… I have been avoiding thinking about it, and telling myself “I have time” and putting it off, when the wedding was in August of next year, but now that we pushed the wedding, I am FREAKING out because I don’t have a dress yet, and I have crazy anxiety about trying on dresses. I have gained weight and had some health issues that have prevented me from my usual work out schedule, so that is the first issue. The second issue, is that I know you are supposed to wear particular undergarments for such a thing, and I’ve googled it a million times, but I have this insane fear of not wearing the right thing. Lastly – my bridesmaids and best friends live in another city and are unable to easily come dress shopping with me, and my mom is not in the picture, so I’d be going by myself. Part of me feels like that’s a good thing, because I tend to get swayed by other people’s opinios, and feel awkward trying things on for people, but the other part of me is terrified to go alone. HELP. Am I crazy or are there other brides out there who are freaking out too??? Any advice???
Post # 3
@Jesserlynn: Maybe go by yourself the first time so you can get a good idea of what you like. Then when you’ve narrowed it down, you can bring mom and or bridesmaids.
On these boards, a lot of brides have posted what they’ve used for undergarments. So you can always go with one of their suggestions. I don’t think it’s the end of the world if they end up peaking out of the dress while trying on. I mean you don’t really know what your dress is going to look like yet right (low back, straps, etc)? So how could you know what the appropriate undergarment should be?
Post # 4
Don’t worry about the undergarments. It’s not until you get to fittings that you need the exact things you plan on wearing. I wore spanx and just my everyday bra, and tucked the straps into the strapless dresses so they weren’t showing, and it was perfect. The spanx helped the dresses slip over my hips too actually.
Going alone won’t be as scary as you think. I pre-warned a few of the places I went to because I was a bit nervous about what they would say, but they were really helpful, didn’t bat an eyelid and I found the perfect dress while on my own.
Take a big breath, and start searching! It might take a while, and really it’s not practical to go with the same people to every appointment… I went to 7 boutiques.
Post # 5
I took a good strapless bra with me, which I think helps the way the sample dresses fit.
Also, if you think it will add stress to have a bunch of girlfriends there, I recommend either going alone or just taking one trusted friend with you. Too many opinions when you have more than two people accompanying you!
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room
Don’t worry! I only wore panties (no bra) for trying on dresses and it worked out just fine for all 6 shops I went to. They don’t care… and if they think you need something underneath, they have longline bras there on hand.
As for going alone or not.. I took my MOH because she makes me laugh. Don’t bring a whole crowd of people, bring one or two people that you know will lift you up and support you. If a dress gets “stuck” and you can’t try it on… try to take it with good humor. Even I got stuck in at least 4 dresses and I’m of average size.
Don’t be afraid of trying on dresses that aren’t your style or look weird on the hanger. If it’s terrible, then it should be a good laugh, right? And if you can, take pictures of all the dresses! It will help you narrow it down later.
Post # 7
The first time at a bridal salon is always the hardest in my opinion. I went to David’s Bridal with a strapless bra and some boyshorts. They lent me a longline bra and a crinoline to try dresses on. It was like wearing a big plain white dress, so I didn’t feel too exposed, even when the door was open. The second salon I went to, they offered to lend me undergarments, but I already had my bra and my Rago shapewear ready to go. I wouldn’t worry 🙂
Post # 8
Go shopping alone, and buy your under things AFTER you buy your dress, at definitely NOT at the bridal shop! They will charge you both arms and both legs!
My crinoline would have been $85 at the bridal shop… I paid $23 new on Ebay!
And remember, dress shopping is FUN!
If you feel pushed or pressured, leave the store. You’re not going to have a good dress experience like that!
Post # 9
- Wedding: February 2014 - Windstar on Naples bay
dont be afraid! i was so nervous because im a plus size bride. but if the bridal shop has good consultants they’ll make you feel right at home. i went right after work so didnt have time to change, but they gave me a bra and crioline to wear underneath the dress. it was good too because both items gave me the shape i needed to look good. 😀 While i brought my mom, her godmother (because mom wants her more involved as shes in the whole “I’m old and going to die before the wedding” mode) and a really trusted friend… i selected these people carefully because youd be surprised at how much the opnions of others can affect you. so going alone would be awesome its just you and the consultant who will be unbiased. 🙂 dont worry its a lot of fun. im disapointed i dont get to go shopping anymore! XD
Post # 10
If you have a friend who lives in the same city as you, maybe not real close but someone who you think will be very positive, maybe bring her/him?
Post # 11
I went for the first time in October to try on dresses with my aunt, she’s brutally honest. We narrowed down styles that I did and didn’t like then I had my mom, FMIL and some other friends and family come along to select a dress. It was much easier having already tried on some gowns to know what style I loved and didn’t like. Don’t worry about the undergarments, they should have strapless bras to try on with the gowns.
Post # 13
Awe don’t freak out sweetie it will be fun 😀 its really fun
If you don’t know what you like they will help you find out, just wear a strapless bra and nice panties that you feel confy in that u know wont make werid lines once you choose a dress you can pick a bra speical for it or even a corset type thing
Bring 1 friend, your best friend you know the one who can read you like a book. My bestie took me and just me (her and her mom head butt on style and a few of her other friends tend to really be pushy and not care what she likes)
What your gonna do is have fun try on lots hate some love others, you may find your self torn bettween 2 dresses or you might just know… if your torn ask your friend if she tells you her fav and you defend the other dress … that dress is your dress if you think hmm she might be right then you know you didnt really love that other dress.
Just go have fun, i did go with my mom and found i was lacking that best friend who helps you and knows what you really like… I have to go again lol but i only tired like 8 dresses (i loved them all)
its important to just go have fun dont bring to many ppl and when all else fails try on a veil even if you don think you anan war one you might be shocked by the power of a veil to make you see the bride lol
and then when you do your fittings ask his mom and your friends to come its really fun and then they still feel like part of the dress 🙂
Post # 14
I think given your hesitation, you should do a solo trip first to get an idea of what you like, don’t like, and maybe make a short list of contenders. Then you can do a second visit with your bridesmaids, family etc for their opinions. I think it could be a recipe for disaster if you do your maiden trip to try on dresses with an entourage, you might end up confused and discouraged or at worst – end up with a dress you don’t love because you’re pressured into it.
I would definitely buy good foundation garments before you go and wear them on the day so you get the best effect – just some Spanx or something, you probably don’t even need a bra because most dresses are so corsetted you don’t need an additional bra underneath.
Post # 15
@Jesserlynn: Go by yourself to get a feel for what you love!!
As far as underwear, if you mean shapewear for your hips/legs/bum, that can’t hurt to get beforehand, but if you mean a longline bra/corset/something for your top, DEFINITELY WAIT…. I got a Maggie Sottero dress, and I won’t need any bra at all with it… literally, nothing up top! And I’m a 36DDD, so I NEVER go braless. Haha.
If you find a well-constructed dress, you may not need any bra at all, so why waste the money (those longline bridal corset type bras are EXPENSIVE!).
But I’m super self-conscious about my hips/bum (street size 16), so I bought a Rago shapewear piece for my lower half (btw, Rago is AMAZING.. so much better than Spanx because it doesn’t shift or bunch or roll at all!). I didn’t buy it BEFORE dress shopping, but made sure I had it when it came time for alterations! And it definitely makes a difference! 🙂
You don’t have very much time at this point, but most bridal salons will have samples they’d be willing to sell you for cheaper! 🙂
Post # 16
Ok ladies! I bit the bullet and went shopping today, and I left feeling sad and confused and frustrated! AHH.
The consultant immediately pulled a dress that I didn’t like, and said she swears it was made for me. I tried it on, and when looking in the mirror, I LOVED the way it fit, here’s the thing, I was looking at the DRESS. Not so much ME in the dress, if that makes sense. I felt like it made me look really thin, and hit all the right places, but then when I looked up at MYSELF IN the dress, I didn’t like it, because I didn’t like the style of dress as a whole? She was dead set on it being MY dress, but I asked to try on another. I tried on a style that I REALLY LOVE and I like the way it looked on me in general, but it didn’t fit the same, or make me look as thin, and the sales consultant immediately was blahh about it. I’m not sure what to do, because I really liked the way my body looked in the first dress and how I FELT in the first dress, but I want the ‘look’ of the second dress, and now I feel SO confused and discouraged. I should add that she wasn’t just upselling, the dress she was pushing was actually 1000 dollars cheaper BEFORE the sale she had on today. I could have walked out with dress #1 today for $500.00 cash and the other dress was $2000.00 I just don’t know what to do. I’m in a bit of a rush, being 5’0 and my fiance only being 5’6, I can’t wear giant heels like I want to, which means I NEED the dress hemmed and my wedding is 4 months away???? What would YOU do? did anybody else have an issue with loving a dress but not really? lol I am starting to feel like I am crazy