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So, I'm brand new pregnant.  Like, 4 weeks today brand new.  And I keep thinking about all of the wonderful women on here who have either miscarried or had stillbirths, and some post further down where the overwhelming consensus was "someone has to make up the bad numbers."  

And for example, this morning, I feel better now than I felt before going to bed last night, so I start to worry that something is wrong.

OBVIOUSLY this isn't healthy, but is it normal?  How do you stop thinking this way?  It's just that DH and I want this little bean SO MUCH, it's sort of terrifying.

@Storm0075: My appointment for confirmation is on Wednesday, although, I'm not particularly worried that there's not something in there, just that he won't stay.  I'm trying to resist the urge to pee on some more tests, but I think that's going to be a losing battle.

This is probably a case of some too aggressive internet searching!  Someone's pregnancy tip in the other sticky thread was to let your DH do the googling for you, and I'm starting to see why that's very, VERY good advice.

You're not alone. I'm starting to finally calm down a bit when we saw the heartbeat. We're 7 weeks. I found out when I was like 3w4d or something nuts like that. I felt the same way as you and still worry on a good day. So, it's normal. But, there's absolutely nothing you can do to control if you're going to miscarry or not. Stress and worry however are proven to be bad for the baby, and optimism/positive thinking is good. So I try to just be positive and know that aside from taking care of myself, there's nothing I can do to stop nature from taking it's course. I didn't like that post either about someone having to make up the bad numbers. Of course it's true and for people who have had the terrible things happen to them, I can understand why they feel that way. I just am trying to tell myself, someone also has to make up the good numbers, which are much higher than the bad ones anyway. Let's just hope and pray that for us, we get lucky and land on the good side of the statistics. 

Congratulations!  I think it is totally normal to feel nervous and scared...especially in the beginning.  Early on on my pregnancy (about 5 weeks or so) I began spotting and my hormone levels were not doubling the way my doc expected.  I was convinced I was going to have MC.  I was also VERY sick with the flu...it was a bad week.  Ultimately,  I just kept telling myself that it was something I couldn't control.  I just needed to rest and relax and accept whatever came my way.  And I continually talked to my baby bean and told him how much we wanted him.  We had 3 u/s in about a week and finally decided we would have to wait until our scheduled 8 week u/s to see what was going on.  It was such a relief to see that little heartbeat then! 

Thanks you guys.  I had some breakfast (which made me feel considerably better), and spent some time looking at nursery stuff, but all of you guys helped to put it in some perspective.

You're right, all I can do is do everything in my power to keep the baby healthy, and that's about all I have control over. :)  Thank you so much for your understanding and compassion!  Made me feel like not quite so much of a Looney Toon.

So, that being said, how cute is this? 

@spraguebride: I sometimes think like that too... I'll say things like, if all goes well, the baby will be here in march so we'll need x by summer, etc. I feel like I won't drop the if's until I'm much further along. But that said.... my mantra is, stay positive!!!