Terrified to dress shop

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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2364 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

crackktheskyy:  I WAS looking forward to it, however, I was very nervous about not liking how I looked in things.  I was worried that styles and dresses I saw and loved would look horrendous on me.  Good news?  There is a dres/cut/style/neckline FOR EVERYONE.    I was shocked at how many things looked great on me when I didn’t think it would!  I’m the type of person who walks into a dressing room with 20 items and walk out with NOTHING.  Wedding gowns?  I had the pick of the litter.  It was a pleasant surprise.  

Post # 3
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33 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I dreaded it. I’m in process of losing a little weight and knew that I probably wouldn’t feel 100% comfortable in anything. I am also on a budget so most of the dresses I love are out of my price range. I also didn’t like dealing with consultants. They didn’t seem very helpful giving me ideas on what would be better than the dresses I found to be just okay.

So I bought my dress from preownedweddingdress.com and it is being delivered today! I’m trying it on for the first time tomorrow night at my moms. So much less stress than a bridal store. Hoping to take it to a seamstress the next day to get the alteration process started.

I wish you the best of luck.

Post # 4
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716 posts
Busy bee

I hear you.  I am dress shopping now and it is ripe with potential to be an absolutely humiliating experience. 

First, everyone has their own taste.  It’s only when people show you the respect of listening to your vision that you feel in control.

Then, obviously you are trying on a dress in a midpoint size that is most likely either too big or too small.  It is only when people have this perspective that you avoid unnecessary comments.

Then, obviously you are getting dressed and undressed in the process.  It is only when people give you privacy in the dressing room that you feel respected.

I think mothers and grandmothers feel that they have license to say and do whatever they want.  It’s really only with your friends that any sort of emotional maturity and deference starts to kick in.

What helps the experience?  I would say, be in control.  If someone makes a comment that is off point with what you want, then speak up.  If someone makes a comment that is unnecessarily critical of your body, then point it out.  Insist on privacy in the dressing room, just you and the consultant.  If you aren’t feeling respected, then dump you entourage until you are ready with top choices that you are proud to show.  You are not a child, you are in control.

Post # 5
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444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I am really self-conscious, too, but I was still able to (mostly) enjoy dress shopping. It helps that wedding dresses are gorgeous and are designed to make you look good! If you are committed to going with your grandmother, I would advise bringing someone else along who you know will really root for you. I have a similar grandmother, and, to be honest, I wouldn’t dress shop with her. I love her, but I don’t need that. I’ve seen enough Say Yes to the Dress episodes to know that you don’t need someone critical. So if you really do want to go with her, prepare yourself to not let her bother you, and bring a good ally for yourself.

Post # 8
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959 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery

I was not looking forward to dress shopping. I am super hyper -critical. It helps to have people with you that will not stress you out. I would recommend having a clear vision of how you see yourself looking on your wedding day. Do not compromise or settle. Just because someone else is paying for the dress does not mean that they have to love it 100%. As long as it is within budget, you should be able to get something that you truly love. Good luck!

Post # 10
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716 posts
Busy bee

crackktheskyy:  I don’t think it’s atypical to like almost nothing.  I am not a fan of the vast majority of bridal.  From a design perspective, so much tooks tacky, cheap, and slutty to my eye.  From a fit perspective, so much just doesn’t flatter me.  I comfort myself with the knowledge that I only need to find 1 dress!

Post # 12
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716 posts
Busy bee

crackktheskyy:  5 appointments, so that’s at least 25 dresses that you’ll be trying on.  I don’t think it will be hard to pick 1 out of 25.  That’s a very wide margin of error!

Post # 14
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716 posts
Busy bee

crackktheskyy:  I’ve been averaging 5-8 dresses per appointment.  I’m supper picky though, so that likely is what is keeping my numbers down.

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