- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
I thought there was a relationship thread….sorry if i missed it…
So my fiance has this exgf, she was a highschool gf and her and i graduated together we were cool, but not good friends. He was a few years older so i didnt know him.
They broke up years before we started dating but they occasionally hooked up and the last time was when right after we met i was going to meet and break up with my then bf.
My man and i broke up and went our separate ways until last year we got back together and thats when we got serious and on a date her name came up and he said there was never that romantic feeling with her, simply friends. ok.
fast fwd to now. She knows we are getting married and occasionally asks how the planning is and how he is doing.
Her and I havent spoke since hs and im find with that. Last week my man was still logged into facebook and so when i went to fb i thought it was mine and i knew i has message so i went right in to the message area and since we have a similar profile photo of us together i didnt think anything of it until i saw a message from her that said something to the effect of ” it was great talking to you briefly, keep me posted on how everything is going, id love to keep in touch with ya, keep your head and everything will be fine”
Im sure it was in regards to his job loss and recent medical drama. He never told me that she called so it caught me off guard. When he came home i told him he needed to learn how to log off fb He said ok, sorry.
After I tossed it around and realized that he knows i can see everything and always says he has nothing to hide, i figured it was fine. It still bugged me a little and so I brought it up and asked if he cared that i saw the message and he said no not at all, and told me how it came to be and how it started out as a text and she asked if she could call cause it would be easier to chat than text.
so today looked at his phone and there was a text from her asking if he wanted to meet for lunch he said he would love to but he had his daughters and he was so sorry. She said no big and they both said dont be a stranger.
So after the looooong winded post i just created, should he have told me this? I know i shouldnt have looked but i did, go ahead and judge me if you want. There is not a easy way for me to bring it up without telling him i looked through his phone, which he doenst care but its the simple fact that i did and well, not a proud moment.
I dont care that they are friends but an ex is an ex. Should i have to know about his every contact with an ex? I dont think i should but i want to hear your perspectives please.