Texted they were coming awhile back but no RSVP?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
2720 posts
Sugar bee

@mtbikelover:  You should try calling her instead of texting. Leave her a message and text her if she doesn’t answer letting her know that if she doesn’t get in contact with you my X, then you assume that she is not coming.

Post # 4
Member
1584 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MRSsrm85:  Agreed. Let them know vocally that if you haven’t received their RSVP by X date, then you will assume they are not coming. I really don’t get WHY people can’t just pop a prestamped envelope in the friggen mailbox. Why is that so difficult?

Post # 6
Member
8905 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@mtbikelover:  I’d just keep following up.  It’s annoying, but better to try to get all the info.  I’m dealing with this same thing myself – our caterer needs our final count tomorrow…

Oh, and I’m personally taking the route of NOT being up on my high horse about needing the actual physical RSVP, but just needing a firm concrete confirmation of attendance.  I don’t think needing the actual RSVP is the right hill to die on, ya know?

Post # 7
Hostess
3787 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Definitely call, and leave a voicemail. Waiting around for a text that may or may never come sounds silly to me. It’s annoying she can’t get it back to you quickly, but just call and get it over with.

Post # 8
Member
1817 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’ve been where you are. Why can’t people just put the damn RSVP in the mail?!

I would definitely call. Tomorrow morning, Saturday morning, Sunday morning, call her husband/ boyfriend, message her on FB, etc. That’s super rude of her. But it would suck for them and for you if she and three other people showed up to your wedding with nowhere to sit at the reception.

Post # 9
Member
42469 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would call or text once more. If I got no response after that, I would text or email that I was sorry, but that since we had no rsvp and no response to follow up messages, we were going to have to assume that they were unable to make it and mark them as a “no”.

 

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