Post # 1
here’s the situation: my friend had a tight budget to stick to for her wedding, so they sent out the majority of their save the dates and invites via email. They were very nice, like you would get in the mail, but just attached to an email. Only a few physical invites went out to non-tech family. Now she’s onto the thank-yous and is up in the air on what to do.
They had about 110 guests so buying, cards, envelopes, stamps etc will cost a good chunk of change and to write them all out will take a lot of time. A mutual friend thinks the bride has to go this way, otherwise she’s being tacky. I don’t see the problem with sending e-thanks since they already did save the dates and invites this way, as long as it has a nice card-like attachment and a personal note, versus a generic thankyou message.
Are email thank-yous so horrible? If yes, then why? They can look just as nice, have personal messages and will save time and money. I wouldn’t mind getting a nice thoughtful one, would you?
please help thanks!
Post # 3
@ocrest12: I’d be annoyed as a guest. It also cost me a lot of time/money to select and purchase a gift/cheque and choose a card. I think the least one can do is return literally less than 1% of that and take a minute to write me a note and buy a stamp.
Post # 5
I personally don’t care either way. If I buy you a gift, all I ask is a thank you in any manner. I don’t see how just because it’s on paper makes it a “better” thankyou than any other. I appreciate a hand written thank you, or something in the mail, but postage is expensive and weddings are often large, and I understand this.
Instead of a generic e-mail thank you, maybe she could send out e-cards. I know there are still a lot of websites that allow you to for free.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t be bothered by it, I’d be grateful a thanks was shared. But tbh I wouldn’t do this myself, I personally value giving handmade or at least hand written thank you notes.
Post # 7
I think this depends on the generation. I found older people like grandparents etc prefer handwritten whereas a younger generation won’t exactly be waiting by the letterbox for the thank you to arrive.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I would be okay with an email invite as long as it was detailed and personalized… and I would value a personalized email over a generic handwritten note. I’d prefer a personalized handwritten note though 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
I was going to vote “no it should be handwritten” but then I honestly thought about it and I changed my mind to “as long as it’s personal and meaningful”. I mean, I can understand the budget pinch. And technology has come such a long way with what you can attach to an email? And really, the overall message would be the same whether it was written or typed… the words and sentiment would be the same. (Aaaand hey, they are saving paper?)
I would totally not be upset to get a very thoughtftul email thank you.
Post # 10
i think if 110 people had the time to attend the wedding, the couple should make the time to write a personalized thank you for each guest. i know that electronic thank yous are probably becoming more popular but i would still prefer a card.
Post # 11
You can get 100 thank you cards at Jo Ann’s for like $10, (assuming 10 people RSVP no, that should be enough). $46 for postage is a little more, but It’s still less than $60. What is that in the grand scheme of the costs of a 110 person wedding?
Just send the real thank-you notes. She should be sending them as she recieves each present, so it shouldn’t be too overwhelming. Also, they went to your wedding and bought you a gift, a thank you note is very little in return for the honor of their presence!
Post # 12
Handwritten… I just feel like that alone makes it more personal than any email.
Post # 13
I find email very impersonal so I would prefer a handwritten thank you card for the same reasons that others stated above.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
I would appreciate the effort. I think a wedding deserves something more special than an email. I get tons of emails daily, but I don’t get handwritten notes very often.
Post # 15
I would be very upset if I went out and purchased something for you as a gift, took the time to come out and spend your day with you, and all I received was a email that you probably mass emailed to all guests.
Post # 16
I sent post card invites, and post card thank yous. They were all personalized, but we did save quite a bit in stamps.