Post # 1
I sent out our thank you cards to our guests that brought gifts…there were actually quite a few that didnt and mostly close friends, but hey whatever. So, today my good friend asks me why she didnt get a thank you card.. What do I respond to that? We didnt even receive a congrats card from her and she was late and missed the ceremony.. This is a very good friend and I’m pretty annoyed she couldnt be on time because like her husband said “couldnt decide on an outfit.”
I dont even know what to say to her without being rude. Suggestions?
Post # 3
how did you respond today? if i was in your situation, i would have probably told her i hadn’t sent out all the thank you cards yet, and hers would be arriving sometime soon.
it totally sucks she missed your ceremony, but what can you do? be rude to her or end the friendhsip are options, i guess. for me, it just wouldn’t be worth it to confront her or be mean by telling her she didn’t deserve a thank you card. she knows what she did, and hopefully feels bad about it.
Post # 4
That’s pretty rude of her, and weird that she’d expect a thank you. I agree with the pp though, it’s just not worth it. Tell her that you’re still working on thank you’s, and send her one.
Post # 5
Honestly, it was rude of you to only thank guests who gave you gifts. Even if they were late, they cared enough to take time out of their day, their weekend, whatever and come support your marriage. You should have sent thank yous to every person who came, regardless if they brought you a gift. Also gifts are not even required at weddings.
Did she get you a shower gift?
I’m sorry if this sounds harsh, but if you want to know what to say to your friend, I would suggest, “I’m sorry, I may have made a mistake. My bad, and I do really appreciate your friendship and your support on my wedding day” and then send her a note.
Post # 6
If someone didn’t bring a gift to my wedding, they didn’t get a thank you card. I mean, heck they had free appetizers, dinner and unlimited drinks so i surely did’t need to send them a thank you card for eating the food i paid for. I did, however, send a few thank you cards to people who didn’t bring gifts but helped out. Like my sister in laws best friends was in charge of sending the bridesmaids and kids down the aisle. She was also the only one there for me when i came out and started crying, so her support meant alot to me so i thanked her for that.
Post # 7
I did send out thank yous to friends who helped and just gave us a card..no monetary gifts etc.
I feel that i invited close friends only and had an awsome weekend planned out for everyone at no expense to them. I havent responded and will probably send her one just for the sake of saving us any drama.
Post # 8
I was planning on sending cards to everyone that comes, regardless of whether they bring a gift. Almost all my guests have to travel and stay in hotels for my wedding, so while most of them will probably bring gifts, I’m not going to be angry if they don’t. As for your friend – I hate to ask, but do you think she gave you a gift that you didn’t receive? Either a present or a card that somehow went missing or got lost in the mail? I just think it’s weird that she’d ask about her thank you card if she didn’t bring anything.
Post # 9
I agree with Miss OBG, presents can get lost. Did you have favours at your wedding? From what I’ve heard those are enough of a thank you for people who attended (although it doesn’t hurt to send a Thank You card).
It’s also not that long after your wedding, if you want to send her one even if she didn’t give a gift, you still have time!
Post # 10
I double checked cards and cant find a thing from her..but again how do i ask?
We gave out favors and hosted pool side cabanas all day the following day as well. Im just going to send her one and hopefully it doesnt turn into a big thing.
Post # 11
I’m suprised she asked for a thank you…thank you for what?