Post # 1
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
One couple that we expected at the wedding (Rsvp’d yes) ended up not showing up. They are friends of my dad, and he hasn’t heard from them yet, either. We did receive a gift from them that they shipped a little before the wedding, and was wondering how you would handle the thank you card. “Missed you at the wedding,” maybe? I don’t know if maybe they just forgot, or had something better to do, or if something really bad happened, so I want to try to be sensitive… What would you do?
Post # 3
i just wouldn’t mention the wedding and would say thanks for the gift or something, personally.
Post # 4
Well since they sent you a gift, you should still send them a thank you card thanking them specifically for the gift. I’m not sure of the etiquette as far as wording but I don’t see anything wrong or offensive with saying something along the lines of “missed you at the wedding” and then going into how much you appreciate the gift and what you plan on using it for. It’s not being snarky or calling them out, you’re sincerely saying that you missed their presence.
Post # 5
I agree with @joeswifey. Just say thanks for the gift, etc. That removes the posbility of offending them if something serious happened or pointing out that you noticed they had RSVPed and then no showed. Simple thanks…
Post # 6
I agree. Just say thank you for the gift.
Post # 7
I agree. Just say thank you for the gift and that’s all.
Post # 8
I would just send a thank you note acknowledging the gift. If they forgot or something happened it may prompt them to tell your Dad what happened. If they just blew it off it’s probably best to just let it go anyway and send a sincere thank you regarding the gift.
Post # 9
like everyone else said, i would write “Dear ___, Thanks for the lovely toaster oven. We’ve already used it many times! Love, Mr. and Mrs.___”