Post # 1
So I just had my first shower last weekend – so much fun! One of the guests was a long time friend of my mother’s. She bought me a gift for the shower, which was a nice heavy duty baking sheet. When we got back to my mom’s house that day, there was a telephone message from the store I’m registered at saying that there was a registry gift down at the store waiting to be picked up. The gift was wrapped, and from the aforementioned shower guest with a card addressed to me and FI signed from her and her husband. Of course I immediately tore it open and its clearly our wedding gift – a really expensive Le Crueset dutch oven. Was I supposed to open it? Should I have waited until the wedding? Should I send the thank you card now? Combine it with the shower thank you? I need guidance, thanks ladies.
Post # 3
I would definitely write her a thank you now since that is when you received the gift. As for seperate thank yous for the shower gift and the wedding gift, that is really up to you. It might be a nice guesture to right them seperately, however they would arrive around the same time anyway so may save the paper and postage? Yeah, I’m no help…
Post # 4
I would write a thank you immediately so she knows that you picked it up. I sent thank yous for all wedding gifts I received before the wedding right away.
Post # 5
I had a similar situation – mom’s friend gave me a shower gift, but sent her wedding gift that same week (obviously just doing it while she was there!) I wrote two separate thank-yous, since they were two gifts and just sent one a few days later than the other. Plus, I wanted to thank her for being at the shower (just her), but also recognize her husband (the wedding gift). All that being said, I would def send them before the wedding! They like to know you have it!
Post # 6
I would send a thank you note for the shower and for the wedding gift. Its easiest to send thank you notes as you receive the gifts so they dont pile up.
Post # 7
I would go to “Miss Manner’s Guide to a Dignified Wedding” for advice here. She would say that all wedding gifts given before the wedding require a thank you note before the wedding itself (and yes, it’s okay to open them!) and that gifts given at the wedding (or after) require a prompt thank you note.
Really, I think the best rule of thumb is, if you were the guest who gave this gift, how would you want to be recognized for it – that can help put things into perspective.
As a guest, I love Thank You notes, because I want to know 1) that the couple recieved it and 2) that you loved it!
Post # 8
Your suppose to send a thank you letter as soon as you receive the gift. Express how much you loved it!!
Post # 9
Go ahead and send it now. And it’s fine that you opened the gift. 🙂
Post # 10
Thanks everyone! Thank you cards (one for shower, and one for wedding gift) are in the mail.