Post # 1
So, I’m about to start writing the thank you cards to everyone who attended our wedding. Most people gave us checks or cash as a gift. I know it’s proper to say how you intend on using the money, but usually that means honeymoon, or a down payment on a house. It obviously wasn’t used on the honeymoon because they weren’t deposited until we got back, and we won’t be getting a house any time soon whatsoever. In reality, the money went towards paying off wedding debts and, and the thank you cards themselves :p I’m really just saving the money left over, mostly so I can go back to school. Hubby and I have separate accounts and we just agreed that the money from his family goes to him, and the money from mine to me (we’ll join accounts once I finish school). But hubby just put his money into his savings as well, not for anything in particular, but mostly just for rainy day savings, and maybe to take driving lessons. Sooo, what exactly am I going to say? Should I make something up? If so, what? It’ll be obvious that we aren’t moving any time soon to all my relatives, and idk, saving to go to school seems more of a onesided thing and not an "us" thing (though it really is). Do I have to say anything at all about what we’ll use it for? Can I just say thanks so much, we really appareciate it, and we were so glad you could come, etc etc? (personalized a little more of course). Help!
Post # 3
I was told to say what it will be used for – but that could just be my family, friends, etc. It could differ. I would say thanks and it will be helpful in buying a house or something like that – they don’t need to know it is going to help pay off the dinner and dancing you provided! 🙂
Post # 4
in your case, I would just be vague, but very gracious: Thank you so much for your generous gift, it is going to be so helpful as we start our married life together! We enjoyed your company at the wedding/ it was so nice to see you again…
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
Basically I was going to say what Natakie said: "We were touched by your very generous gift…" That type of thing.
Post # 6
I would say something about a "nest egg"… it’s vague enough, and from my googling seems to mean either money you’re saving for something specific (e.g. house), or else just a chunk of money that starts your serious savings. (The technical definition apparently is a fake egg you put in a nest to get the hen to lay… so I guess the idea is that if you already have some money in savings, you’ll want to make it grow?)
Post # 7
The information I have on thanking people for monetary gifts is to thank them for their generosity or kind gift and not mention the money. You can mention it’s a aiding you in your start as a married couple. Really, is that worse than saying you’re buying silverware?
Post # 8
Thanks everyone! I finally got ahold of my mom to ask her and she said the same things as everyone here who has posted. She seemed a bit taken aback when I said that etiquette mandates what we’re supposed to use the money for (maybe because we got a lot of small amounts, like $30, which nobody would believe is going towards a house! especially when hubby and I live in NYC and the price of a house is insane). She also mentioned the nest egg. I was worried people wouldn’t know what the heck I was talking about, but she said they will lol Thanks everyone!
Post # 9
I would say something like…
"We are so happy you were able to share our special day with us. It was great seeing you at the wedding. Also, thank you so much for the generous gift! We plan to purchase a few of the remaining items on our registry with it."