Post # 1
I’m hoping you can help me decide what to do about my thank you card situation. DH and I decided we’d each do thank you cards for our own wedding guests. Mine were sent a month after the wedding and his are about half done and sent now, 9 months after the wedding. I am feeling horrible that we still haven’t written thank yous to half of his guests. I told DH that I would just write them all at this point, but he says that its his job to write the rest of the thank yous and he will get it done soon. For some reason he really doesn’t want me to do it. It could be because when he actually sits down to write them, he writes really amazing notes, where mine sound a bit more generic.
We are seeing his family this weekend, most of whom haven’t gotten a thank you yet. DH is away on business this week, so he wont be writing any thank yous before the weekend. Should I at least write thank yous to the people we’ll be seeing and send them out? I was thinking that I could write a short thank you for their gift and help with the wedding, and DH could write another more personal card to each of his family members when he has more time.
What do you think? Should I write the thank yous and send them out now, or keep waiting for DH to finish them himself?
Post # 3
How many people were in your wedding? 9 months is a long time to wait to send out thank you cards IMO. It’s been almost a month since our wedding and it’s really bothering me that I don’t have mine out yet (but I’ve been waiting on the pictures postcards to be printed so that I can write them).
Anyway, I think you should ask your husband to either let you write the cards for the family that you will see this weekend, or have him write them before he leaves. Express to him that it will put you in an awkward position to not have their thank you cards, this late after the wedding. But also tell him that you really do appreaciate how great his notes are.
Post # 4
Ask for his help. He should.
Post # 5
Explain to him that his failure to write the notes is becoming embarassing and a poor impression for both you and him. Tell him he has one week, and then you are writing and sending them out, whether he likes it or not. If the guests you are seeing this weekend mention it, act surprised and tell them that each of you was responsible for your own guest list.
Post # 6
@MrsTrigger:Totally agree with this advice. 9 months is way too long. I would give him one week tops and then too bad if the notes aren’t perfectly written at least they got a thank you.
Post # 7
@MrsTrigger: I agree completely. 9 months is a long time, and as a guest, if I haven’t recieved a thank-you after a few months, I figure it will never come. How busy is his life that it’s taken that long to write half of just his side!? (My FI is the same way when it comes to procrastination.)
Post # 8
I also agree with @MrsTrigger.
Post # 9
I’d give DH a deadline. Meaning – tell him he has one more month to complete them, if not, you are taking over. That way – he gets a way to complete them (as he wants) and you have an actual timeframe.
Don’t worry about the notes for the family you are seeing this weekend. If you haven’t seen them since the wedding, verbally thank them for their gift and just let them wait for their official thank you.
Post # 10
I heartily agree with MrsTrigger‘s advice.
Maybe it’s gotten to the point where they’re looming over his head. You could always sit down together, put on an old movie, and split the remaining ones. Maybe set aside some time this weekend?