Post # 1
I have been to/brought nice gifts for 4 weddings in the past year. I have recieved only one thank you card (5 months after the wedding). One wedding I even flew across the country for. This can’t be normal. Has anyone else experienced this? I hope to send one to all of my guests within 2 months. Is sending a thank you card not etiquette anymore???
Post # 3
Definitely still etiquette to do so. Some people are just more of a stickler about it than others. I try not to take it personally, but I do always make sure to get my thank-you cards out as soon as I can. 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I believe you should always send a thank you card.
Post # 5
That is NOT normal! I went to a wedding in November and got a thank-you not in December!
Post # 6
I think you have up to a year to send them out (I plan to send them earlier then that) I was IN a wedding almost 2 years ago and never got a thank you card….I think it’s safe to say I’m not getting one now!!!
Post # 7
I agree with PPs. Thank you cards are still proper etiquette, even if some people don’t send them!
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
What happens if you can’t attend a wedding, send a gift, and never get a thank-you? I did this for a wedding in August and haven’t heard anything. I want to make sure they got it! Would it be rude to email and ask?
Post # 9
@sweetchiquita12: No gift givers have a year to send a gift. Gift receivers are expected to get the notes in the mail as soon as possible. The gold standard being before you go to bed the night a gift is received. Most etiquette authorities give you a 3 month grace period.
Waiting a year to thank someone doesn’t really make you seem very grateful.
Post # 10
@andielovesj: Yeah that makes sense. A thank you note would be nice right away
Post # 11
When do you bees plan on getting your thank yous out?
Post # 12
Ugh. Of all the weddings I have attended over the past year or so (close friends and family members), I gave really nice and expensive gifts for the wedding and the shower and I have not heard a peep to say thank you.
This grates me so much and I find it to be so rude. Even if someone just made the effort to attend the wedding and celebrate with you, you could at least thank them.
I plan on getting my thank you’s out ASAP following the wedding. Definitely within one month, but hopefully sooner. I will force then Darling Husband to sit down and write them with me.
Post # 13
I love writing thank you cards and sending personal mail to people. Im excited to do mine. I am just surprised that alot of people don’t have the manners to do them at all anymore.
Post # 14
I side-eye any bride who honestly thinks she needs a YEAR to do them. That’s unacceptable. You’re busy? Eh – I don’t buy it. Everyone thinks they’re busier than everyone else. I’m busy, you’re busy, WE ARE ALL BUSY.
Post # 15
My parents attended a wedding in January and never got a thank you card. And get this: The bride calls herself a wedding planner!