Thank-you cards

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1283 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Uh, not to be too snarky but thank you notes are usually supposed to be sent out within a month or two of the wedding. 

Post # 4
1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’ve heard proper etiquette is within 3 months of the wedding.

Post # 6
1283 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@robraker:  🙁 sorry to hear that. I think a late thank you card is better than no thank you card though, so kudos for thinking about it. I know my parents always remember if they didn’t get a thank you card from so-and-so’s wedding . . .

I’m sure other bees will weigh in too, but maybe you don’t even need to mention about the separation? The purpose of the note is to thank the giver for the wedding gift, not an update of your personal life. 


Post # 8
12262 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d think it was bizarre to get a thank you note from a couple I knew was seperated!

And if at all possible, it would be a nice gesture to return the gifts to their givers.

Possibly with a “Thank you so much for attending our wedding. It meant a great deal to us that you were able to attend.”

Post # 9
1807 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@BrandNewBride:  I also think it’d be nice to return the gifts where possible.

And also a late thank you is better than none at all!


Post # 11
3265 posts
Sugar bee

All gifts that are unopened + cash should be returned. 

Thank you notes are always better late then never. 

Post # 12
2613 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@robraker:  First, I’m sorry for what you’re going through. 

Write and send the thank yous. Better late than never.

I, personally don’t think I would use the thank you as the means of announcing the split. If people already know, just focus on how much you enjoyed the gift and how much their love and support means to you.

Since the wedding took place, I’m not entirely sure what the etiquette is regarding the gifts. If the split took place fairly quickly, you might want to consider returning or offering to return the gifts, but make a phone call for that or maybe let a family member or friend help you with it.

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