Thank-you cards – bridal shower gifts vs wedding gifts

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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4441 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

vip0802:  I don’t think it matters what the gift is for, just send the thank you as soon as you receive the gift and then you’re covered!  If they get you another gift at the wedding, send another thank you!

Post # 3
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4596 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I sent the same Thank You cards to those who attended my showers, but also to those who we received gifts in the mail before the wedding.

For the gifts we got before the wedding, I just thanked for the wedding present (assuming it was for that), stated how’d we use it, and then said  that we’re excited to celebrate with them next month.

We will probably still thank those for attending if we got their wedding present before the wedding, after the wedding. But, those will be with the Thank You cards we order.

Post # 4
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4410 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

No, just send a thank-you note once, now. If this ends up being the only gift you receive from some people, then you don’t need to send them another card after the wedding — you’re good. 

Post # 5
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2882 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

 

vip0802:  Some people think it is polite to send out thank you cards for wedding attendence.  While it can be a nice gesture, there is a large group (myself included) who thinks it can be rude sending a thank you card for attending because it comes across as a subtle snub for not getting you a wedding gift.   I would just send out one thank you card when you get the gift, as people are more worried about you not getting the gift than about getting thanked for attending the wedding. 

Post # 6
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2704 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

vip0802:  I’m just about to write out my shower thank you cards as well. I’m giving thank yous for both events. So, I’ll be sending out thank you cards after the wedding as well.

Post # 7
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2704 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

vip0802:  Re-read your question… if they give another gift at the wedding send another thank you. If they don’t, then the one thank you card for the gift you currently have is sufficient.

Post # 8
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m writing up my thank you cards for the shower today, I will send everyone who brings a gift to the wedding a thank you as well.

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