(Closed) Thank you cards for early gifts

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2006 posts
Buzzing bee

Send thank you cards now! I would be upset if I sent a gift and didn’t get a thank you note at least 10 months later (since even though your wedding is only 9 months away it would take you at least another month to get the cards out). A thank you note not only thanks the sender but also acknowledges that you received their gift!

Post # 5
18645 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree that you should just use some basic cards to thank people now.  That way you won’t forget.  I didn’t have special cards made after the wedding so we didn’t have to worry about differences.

Post # 6
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

yes, definitely send them now. I had some guests who gave gifts in the beginning of our engagement or at the bridal shower and then again for the wedding so I sent different thank you cards for different gifts. You’ll get to use them, trust me, but send the thank you’s for the things you receieved now so that people know you got them.


– Bella

Post # 7
19 posts
  • Wedding: July 2008

you can also send some thank you e-card in the meantime……and then on top of the print thank you card with your wedding photos on the d-day:)

Post # 8
739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Send your thank you cards now!  Not only etiquitte to send them in a timely manner, it’s nice to have some out of the way!  I did them as gifts came in and it was nice to have some done before the large rush of gifts received at the wedding.  When you are sitting doing them after the wedding, you’ll be thankful for the ones that are already done!!!

Post # 9
1872 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I agree with everyone else!

No one will compare their thank-you cards with others to see if they got the “real” ones.

Post # 10
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am bringing this post back since I dont want to duplicate a similar one.

I received a couple of early gifts from 2 sisters, one is going to attend the wedding and one is not, they live far. Do I send thank you cards to both now and the one that attends again later or do I only send to the one that isnt coming and the one that is coming later?? 

Thanks for the advice!!!

Post # 11
36 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

@gb4: yes go ahead and send both now, people like to know you got the gift and you’ll have one less to do later! I just bought a cute, but plain (no monogram or pic)set of ty cards to use for showers and early wedding gifts that way i still have some consistency but i can also have more personalized ty cards made for post-wedding if i want 🙂

Post # 12
1696 posts
Bumble bee

@gb4: Most correct form would have you write a thank-you note to each sister, immediately (that is, the same day that the gift arrived). There’s no need to buy generic thank-you cards; the most correct note is written on a small sheet of plain (or monogrammed) heavy white paper.

If you wish to send social notes after your wedding you certainly may — many brides do so because they wish to share the photograph that they’ve had made up for their customized thank-you card. But it is not necessary as long as you send a thank-you note for every gift. In fact technically, it is the guest who should be sending a thank-you note to his or her hostess after the event, thanking her for her hospitality.

Post # 13
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Thank you SO much for responding!!!!! I will do that ASAP, they just called me from the store today

Post # 14
2580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We got an engagement gift and we didn’t have any personalized thank you notes, so I just used some generic thank you cards I already had. I figured people would rather receive the thank you note promptly than wait for personalized cards!

ETA: I didn’t realize this was an old thread, so I was responding to the OP. @gb4 I would say get plain thank you notes and send one to each sister. Each person who gives a gift should receive a separate thank you note for each gift–if they get you a wedding gift later, you should send a separate Thank You then!

Post # 15
871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Buy extra thank you cards and send it now. You’ll forget if you wait and it is one less you have to do after the wedding.

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