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We did shower thank you notes -- and our shower was just about one month before the wedding. Could you have the fiance help you with this task?
You're completely wrong. Of course you need to send thank you notes for shower gifts. Why woukd you not?
I really thought you were kidding,but I guess not.
You're completely wrong. :) You need to send thank you's for all gifts received for the wedding, shower and actual wedding gifts! Crack open a bottle of wine, get FI to help and it won't be that bad. I promise!
I would do the thank you notes. It's a nice gesture, and overall it's better to over-thank than to leave guests who are expecting a written note without one. The notes don't need to be very long... thank them for the gift, say how nice it was to see them, and that you look forward to seeing them at the wedding!
I agree, it is a huge pain but it's a must. Regardless of when you receive the gift, a Thank You card is IMO expected. You can keep them short and sweet, no need to write a letter, just "Dear X, Thanks so much for the X. So great to see you at my shower."
Yeah, I agree you need to send a thank you note. Yes, they are a pain to write, but send them anyway. Was your fiance at the shower? Get your fiance to help and it won't take as long.
Okay, so I really just wish I could do this after the wedding. I'm completely overwhelmed and completely broke. We can't afford to spend even one more dollar ... which is also why the only gifts at the shower were money for our photographer we couldn't afford. FI works about 24 hours a day so I can't even really ask him to help :(
You definitly want to send thank you cards for the shower. Like KateMV said, crack open a bottle of wine, pop a good movie in, grab you fiance (ask him to address the envelopes or something), and you'll be done in no time.
You absolutely have to send a thank you for the shower gifts! Any gift needs a thank you! You can always get thank you cards at the dollar store if it's a money issue!
@EngagedToPanda, I understand that you are broke but I do believe that you can send the thank you cards after the wedding. I had my shower the middle of July and have not sent my TY cards out yet but will be doing so, hopefully before the wedding but I do not believe you are breaking any etiquette rules by sending them out after the wedding. Just as long as you send out a card, you should be fine.
In my opinion, thank you cards for shower gifts are quite common. I think not sending one would be bad etiquette. The thank you cards don't have to be fancy and expensive, you can probably find a pack at the dollar store!
Even if you are broke, you need to thank you guests with an actual thank you card. I'm sorry, but it's completely inappropriate and bad etiquette to just say thanks and give them a hug. They spent money on YOU and you need to thank them appropriately, no matter what the gift was. Buy a packet of cards from Walmart for $2.99 and stick your 44 cent stamp on it.
I've been to too many events (weddings included, wtf) and not received a formal thank you, and it always bristles my feathers! It won't take long!
Yes, thank-yous are a must! Do you have any paper laying around that you can fold together and make your own cards?
If you don't have a spreadsheet of everyones' addresses setup yet, you should spend the time doing that now, since you will need thank-yous for all wedding gifts, too. Then you can do a mail merge and print all of the addresses and returns on the envelopes to save time.
You're guests went out of their way to purchase you a gift, the least you can do is send a note. I DIYed mine becauase I agree, the cost of thank you notes gets pricey.
I sometimes feel that thank you cards are overdone. I don't need a thank you card from my 2 year old nephew who can't write yet.
So, from someone who thinks that thank you cards are overdone, I'm telling you that you really DO have to send shower thank you cards! They don't have to be fancy, just buy a packet of them at walmart or the dollar store and get writing!
How many people gave you shower gifts? It will cost you about $11 per 20 thank you notes, stamps included! Skip starbucks two mornings this week and you can pay for 20 thank you notes. If you really can't afford it, ask your stepmom for help since she has encouraged you to write them.
I just had my shower and definitely plan on sending Thank You cards. Its the least I can do for people who spent a lot of their time and money on me and my fiance. I just bought 20 handmade cards on Etsy from Peculiar Parchment for $6. Got some envelopes for $4.75 from another seller, Chelsea Paper. With shipping the total came to under $15.
If you can't afford $15 and one evening to thank people for spending a day making it all about you, maybe you should reconsider asking for gifts in the first place. I'm not trying to be snarky, but I think people these days are really getting caught up in the things they want to do for themselves and wanting everything to be fun. But sometimes, you just gotta suck it up and do the right thing.
And I for one can never receive too many thank yous!
The Thank Yous are a must. I've found great cards for $2.00 at the Christmas Tree Shop and they always have them in clearance bins, etc. Even blank cards will do. If postage is an issue, ask a friend to help you hand deliver them, but definitely get them. If nothing else, I know of some people who woouldn't be getting you a wedding gift if they don't receive a thank you from the shower.
Maybe you don't have to (I read on some other thread that thank you cards are only required when you haven't had the chance to thank the giver in person), but I know I would be insulted if I bought someone a shower gift and didn't get a thank you card in writing later. In fact, it would probably diminish my generosity for the wedding gift.
Yup, they're a must. Maybe you could find some cute cheap postcards, which will save money on postage too!
Thank you cards for shower gifts are ESSENTIAL.
I will second ddubzz suggestion and say do postcards! And make your FI help you.
You must send a thank you note! I can remember every person I've given a gift to that hasn't given me a thank you note. It totally grinds my gears... It's just proper & polite to do so. Like Marigold, if I didn't receive a thank you note for the shower present-- I'd be a lot less generous when the wedding ceremony rolls around.
The postcard idea is a cute, quick & easy option! Happy writing :)
Thank you cards are definitely a must for any gift recieved for both the wedding and the shower. And I don't think that you can wait until after the wedding and send one for both. I did my thank-you notes within 3 days of our shower and they only took me a few hours (I probably had close to 50). It really wasn't that bad--just some minor hand cramping! While people enjoy spoiling us brides during this time, the last thing any of us would want to seem like is not grateful. Saying "thank-you" at the shower is not sufficient.
You must send thank you notes for your gifts. You don't have to spend tons of money on stationary, go to the dollar store and pick some up. But you must send them.
I know you feel like you've already thanked people in person at the shower, but a written thank you note should still be sent. You may think it's overkill, but your guests will appreciate the gesture. Even if they just gave you cash for your photographer, they also took the time to attend your shower, probably find you a nice card for their cash or check. You are thanking them for honoring you. I wouldn't wait until after your wedding. How many guests do you need to thank? Here's a quick template:
Dear Guest,
Thank you so much for coming to my shower. It was wonderful to see you. I was overwhelmed by your generosity with your contribution to our photography fund. FH and I are so grateful to you. Thanks again and we look forward to seeing you at the wedding!
Love,
EngagedtoPanda
Yep, and I'm sure by now you get the picture, but you definitely need to. If you don't, I think people will feel slighted. Like pp's said, just get those cheap packs of 10 or 12 at Target, Walmart etc and write a simple note thanking them for their generosity.
Yep, it's important to do! We just DIYed ours. It was honestly really cheap for us to do, because we used leftover paper from our invitations and just whipped up a little "Thank You" graphic and printed them out, folded them up,a nd sent them on their way. Ours went out a few days after my first shower, it honestly wasn't that big of a deal. You could always go find some at Target or something to write in? Everybody will really appreciate it!
Definitely need to send shower thank you's. I found mine at Target - they were inexpensive and cute.
Yes, I agree with every other poster - thank you notes for shower gifts are a complete must-do. Please listen to the etiquette advice from your stepmom - she is spot on. Even though you think you don't have time or money for cards and stamps, think of your shower guests who spent time and money choosing a gift just for you, wrapped it, attached a card, and came to a shower for a few hours. When you look at it that way, a few cents for paper and a $.44 stamp doesn't seem like too much of a sacrifice, does it?
The other posters have said it all already... but YES, I think thank you notes for all gifts are a must!
Yup, they are a must. It is annoying and a pain and NOT fun at all, but it is "just one of those things..."
Sending thank you cards for any present is a must in my book. After all, these people are coming to your wedding, your shower, and giving you presents...I think they deserve all the thanks you can give them!
My mom always said that if someone gives you something you always have to thank them with a thank you card. So yes, you will need to send them a thank you card.
I did thank you's for everything we've been given- even if I thanked them in person- better to over-thank them than have them think you are incredibly rude! (Probably more the case with older guests)
I've always received a thank you card from a shower I've been to. Even if its just a simple card, doesn't have to be fancy.
I have too. I've received simple thank you cards from the bride as well before the wedding. It's cheap. You can buy cute thank you cards at Target.
Whenever thank you notes are on sale, I stock up and I keep plenty of stamps on hand. A few weeks ago I got boxes of 20 thank yous for a buck at the Christmas Tree store- I bought 10 boxes. Bonus- they are masculine enough my FI can use them too. I am trying to do some on my lunch break at work. They really are quick. But I think after the wedding is fine.
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Hey all, so my stepmom called me the other day and said I need to send "Thank You" cards to everyone who gave shower gifts. First off, I already thanked everyone AT THE SHOWER, in person, with hugs and kisses. Second, It's just more stationary crap, more envelopes and postage and time I dont have. I've never heard of this ... I mean, I planned on sending them for wedding gifts, but shower stuff? How much thanks do people need? Please weigh in. I'm really not sure, and could be completely wrong here. Thanks!