Post # 1
Hey all, so my stepmom called me the other day and said I need to send “Thank You” cards to everyone who gave shower gifts. First off, I already thanked everyone AT THE SHOWER, in person, with hugs and kisses. Second, It’s just more stationary crap, more envelopes and postage and time I dont have. I’ve never heard of this … I mean, I planned on sending them for wedding gifts, but shower stuff? How much thanks do people need? Please weigh in. I’m really not sure, and could be completely wrong here. Thanks!
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
We did shower thank you notes — and our shower was just about one month before the wedding. Could you have the fiance help you with this task?
Post # 4
I feel a thank you for any gift is a must.
Post # 5
You’re completely wrong. Of course you need to send thank you notes for shower gifts. Why woukd you not?
I really thought you were kidding,but I guess not.
Post # 6
You’re completely wrong. 🙂 You need to send thank you’s for all gifts received for the wedding, shower and actual wedding gifts! Crack open a bottle of wine, get FI to help and it won’t be that bad. I promise!
Post # 7
I would do the thank you notes. It’s a nice gesture, and overall it’s better to over-thank than to leave guests who are expecting a written note without one. The notes don’t need to be very long… thank them for the gift, say how nice it was to see them, and that you look forward to seeing them at the wedding!
Post # 8
I agree, it is a huge pain but it’s a must. Regardless of when you receive the gift, a Thank You card is IMO expected. You can keep them short and sweet, no need to write a letter, just “Dear X, Thanks so much for the X. So great to see you at my shower.”
Post # 9
Yeah, I agree you need to send a thank you note. Yes, they are a pain to write, but send them anyway. Was your fiance at the shower? Get your fiance to help and it won’t take as long.
Post # 10
Okay, so I really just wish I could do this after the wedding. I’m completely overwhelmed and completely broke. We can’t afford to spend even one more dollar … which is also why the only gifts at the shower were money for our photographer we couldn’t afford. FI works about 24 hours a day so I can’t even really ask him to help 🙁
Post # 11
You definitly want to send thank you cards for the shower. Like KateMV said, crack open a bottle of wine, pop a good movie in, grab you fiance (ask him to address the envelopes or something), and you’ll be done in no time.
Post # 12
You absolutely have to send a thank you for the shower gifts! Any gift needs a thank you! You can always get thank you cards at the dollar store if it’s a money issue!
Post # 13
@EngagedToPanda, I understand that you are broke but I do believe that you can send the thank you cards after the wedding. I had my shower the middle of July and have not sent my TY cards out yet but will be doing so, hopefully before the wedding but I do not believe you are breaking any etiquette rules by sending them out after the wedding. Just as long as you send out a card, you should be fine.
Post # 14
In my opinion, thank you cards for shower gifts are quite common. I think not sending one would be bad etiquette. The thank you cards don’t have to be fancy and expensive, you can probably find a pack at the dollar store!
Post # 15
Even if you are broke, you need to thank you guests with an actual thank you card. I’m sorry, but it’s completely inappropriate and bad etiquette to just say thanks and give them a hug. They spent money on YOU and you need to thank them appropriately, no matter what the gift was. Buy a packet of cards from Walmart for $2.99 and stick your 44 cent stamp on it.
I’ve been to too many events (weddings included, wtf) and not received a formal thank you, and it always bristles my feathers! It won’t take long!
Post # 16
Yes, thank-yous are a must! Do you have any paper laying around that you can fold together and make your own cards?
If you don’t have a spreadsheet of everyones’ addresses setup yet, you should spend the time doing that now, since you will need thank-yous for all wedding gifts, too. Then you can do a mail merge and print all of the addresses and returns on the envelopes to save time.