Post # 1
I just received a thank you card from a wedding I went to almost 6 months ago.
I see why they waited because they did a “Happy Holidays” and a Thank you note at the same time, but they missed the mark because the Holidays are over. It would have worked if we got it before Christmas right?
Now I know that its a lot of work sitting down to write over a 100 thank you notes, but if you set up a system of doing 10 cards a day, you already have 70 thank you notes by the end of the week.
They used the same photographer I did, I referred them. So I know they got their pictures back way before I did because my wedding was 2 months after theirs. I received my pictures back in 4 weeks, ordered my Thank you cards immediately and mailed them on the 2 months mark and they were all handwritten.
I am not knocking anyone who typed their Thank You notes, I am just saying, personally, I appreciate a handwritten thank you note more than a generic message. I have also known this friend almost 15 years.
Post # 3
I would never type thank-you notes and I would be offended if I received one. Don’t even get me started on a thank-you note being 6 months late, hand-written or not!
Post # 4
It’s totally tasteless IMO not to write a hand written thank you. It’s not that hard.
Post # 5
@Daizy914: Tacky. Way to show your guests how much you don’t appreciate their gift or attendance at your wedding.
If writing a thank you expressing your gratitude is too much work, then don’t accept gifts.
Post # 6
@Daizy914: was it personalized in any way (like mentioning the gift you gave them)? At least if it’s personalized it shows they put some thought into it but if it’s just a generic message I would almost rather just not receive one…
Post # 7
@RunnerBride13: Me neither. My bridal shower thank you’s were done within one night. I had my bridal shower on Sat. Jul 20th, I mailed the thank you’s Jul 21! that was 40 cards in one day!!! I was so proud. I had cramps but it was worth it and i know that the guests would appreciate it.
And my MIL and my mom told me that so many people were thanking me for a prompt thank you card. They said it was the quickest thank you card they ever received.
Post # 8
@MrsBeck: It was a generic message
this is what it said:
“What a wonder year! We have been so blessed this year and are so thankful to have friends and family that love us.
Thank you so much for celebrating with us! Your kindness and generosity has truly touched our hearts!
We are wishing you Happy Holidays and an Amazing New Year!”
Groom & Brides Name
Post # 9
@Zhabeego: I think sending a typed note is a mix of tacky, lazy and rude. LoL
Its work, but I enjoyed it because I know that my guests would appreciate it. For my friends that I have known a while I threw in some memories for them to laugh at when they read my card. So I had fun with it too.
Im disappointed with my friends card. 🙁
I would never say anything to him about it, thank goodness for weddingbee.
Post # 10
I received a thank you card from my FBIL about 3 weeks after their wedding which I thought was awesome they got them out so fast. The cards were really nice and had a great picture of them on it but it just had a general thank you message inside that was printed, they didnt even sign their name. Totally felt impersonable and like they didn’t really care.
Post # 11
I prefer handwritten thank you cards, because they’re more personal.
Post # 12
Definitely handwritten, way more personal!
Post # 13
@Daizy914: handwritten. unfortunately i couldn’t write super specific notes about the gifts because some of them got separated from the card, but i wrote about how happy it made us to share our day with the guest.
Post # 14
@Daizy914: I’d be peeved too! For the life of me, I’ll never understand why some brides fight so diligently against basic etiquette and common good manners. The countless threads I see here at the Bee concerning how to “get out of” handwriting a simple thank you note in a timely manner is appalling to me.
Post # 15
@Sweetjennygirl: Yes, I agree with you. I dont think brides realize that etiquette cannot be thrown out the window for this particular issue.
Post # 16
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
We sent personalized thank you notes. Technically we typed them because our guest book was a vintage typewriter and we had hand-stamped ‘stationary’ that had our initials on it and had a ton left over. So we used that and the typewriter to write our notes, but they were all personalized and different and we hand-signed our names so I feel like it basically counts as hand-written. Generic thank-you notes barely count as a note–that’s what making a speech at the wedding is for.