Post # 1
My wedding was about three weeks ago and we already have our photos from the photographer -less than a week! all digitally enhanced etc!!! couldnt beleive it! over 650 photos!!!- anyhoo im been on vistaprint making up me thankyou cards are trying to decide what i want and i started thinking about other thank you cards that we have recieved from weddings… which got me thinking that we havnt got that many considering we have been to quite a few weddings! i kinda think this is a little rude as including the engagement party the wedding possibly a hens night etc there is a lot of time and money involved not only for the bride and groom but the guests! im not saying i expect a hand written work of art but maybe a note (you can get those thank you note pads for like $10 for 50!). i know after the wedding you just wont to relax and hopefully never have to hear the phrase wedding jobs again but i think, when your guests spend the time (and more often than not money) on you and your special day dont you think a little thankyou is nice??
PS one of the weddings im really dissapionted in is my husbands cousin, she had the most expensive wedding and was so demanding on her guests, she made one of her guests change his shoes before recpetion as they didnt suit her theme! and girls not only couldnt wear the colours of the bridesmaids but couldnt have the same hair style!! and then the bridal registry! she demanded money and politley (if at all possible) told everyone that if they bought her a gift that wasnt money or what she specifically asked for she would donate it to charity. what the hell!!! we felt abliged to give more money than we usually do as we didnt want to be talked about as “those cousins” and guess what! not one little thankyou! i didnt realise i was upset by this! haha!
Post # 3
I didnt even get a thank you from my friend who I was BM for, we had to pay for everything ourselves, didnt get anything special on the day or a card after the day..even wanted the shoes that she paid for back even though shes half my size.
I will deff be thanking everyone to make sure they are appreciated
Post # 4
The last 2 weddings I’ve been to I haven’t received a thank you note and I think it’s really rude not to. Make sure you do because people appreciate it!
Post # 5
I think its extremely rude and inexcuseable not to send a thank you card!
Post # 6
I have always been under the impression that the Thank You cards were specifically for gifts; you should be thanking guests for their attendence sometime during the date of the wedding.
Definitely send Thank Yous to the people who gave you gifts. I would also send thank yous to any guests who travelled a significant distance or whom you felt exceptionally happy that they came.
To be honest, I think its a bit weird to send a thank you card to a guest who only gave you a card (or nothing at all).
Post # 7
With gifts – I don’t always remember when I receive on but I always remember when I don’t.
I am not married yet, but I think I am going to send all my guest a Thank You post card with one of our pictures on it once I get them back from the photographer. I do plan on using vistaprint for this.
Post # 8
I guess I don’t expect thank yous…but I start to worry if I don’t hear from folks. I’m a worrier…did the gift get stolen, lost in the mail, do they hate me? But I don’t feel like I’m owed anything.
On the other hand, I am an avid card sender. I send thank you cards all darn day, in addition to just sayin hi and birthday cards. I am a newbie at cardmaking so it’s kind of a hobby.
Post # 9
I sent a handwritten thank you card to everyone that gave us a gift within 5 weeks of the wedding-I didn’t realize that I was expected to write one for people who just showed up. Yeah, no.
Post # 10
If someone is spending their time/money to give you a present/card- you need to spend your time sending them a thank you. If they spent their time coming to your event but did not bring a gift- I believe that also warrants a thank you. You should let them know you appreciated that their spent their time celebrating with you. I have some relatives who are notarious for not sending thank yous but they will make sure they invite you to every event/function that you will bring a gift to. Ughhhh!
Post # 11
We did gifts-only paper thank-yous. To thank people for their presence, we walked around during the reception to each table and greeted each guest.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I would send one to everyone
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2014 - Glen Sanders Mansion
I think it’s pretty rude not to send a thank you note, and I’m really not crazy about pre-printed notes. It really doesn’t take that long to write out a few lines of gratitude, and it’s much more personal that a printed card or postcard.
Post # 14
I sent a thank you to each and every guest whether they brought a gift or not. I AM glad tey were able to share our special day, and I truly appreciate they took the time to come to our wedding.
Those who were unable to come or were not invited but sent gifts anyway (a few great aunts/uncles and other extended family) also got a thank you card.
No one gets upset or offended when they DO receive a thank you, so why not just thank your guests? I actually asked one of my friends if her and her DH had received my gift because I had not received a thank you and was worried my gift had been stolen! SHe told me they had received the gift and just didn’t do thank you cards because she “doesn’t have time for it”. Really….sit down 10 mins a day and fill them out until you are though. Jeesh, people!
Post # 15
I would be suprised to get a thank you card for just attending a wedding without a gift, but I wouldn’t be offended. Then again I always bring a gift to weddings.
Post # 16
to not send out thank you cards is just plain rude.
My coworker got married in July and I went to his reception after work, gave him $100 cash, and he never sent a thank you card, to anyone, he didnt even thank me when he saw me at work 3 days later.
then when I got married, he came and gave money, I sent out thank yous to everyone that gave a gift, I gave him his and he was like “oh, we were to lazy to do thank you cards”, and to this day the thank you card I gave him is still sitting crumpled in a corner where he threw it.
so yeah, hes just rude in general.