Post # 1
I’m actually asking this because I’m a little offended, but I’m not sure if I should be.
We attended a friend’s wedding at the beginning of October. The groom is one of FI’s best friends, and I’ve become good friends with the bride in the last few years. I was invited to, but unable to attend, her shower, so I ended up purchasing some gifts off of their registry as shower and wedding gifts from FI and I, and had them shipped to them. They were definitely delivered (per tracking) a couple of weeks before the wedding, though I’ll be honest and say that I have no idea WHERE they were shipped to–the bride and groom’s house or the bride’s house. The bride’s mother did almost everything for the wedding–I’m not sure if the bride did anything. We also gave them a card at the actual wedding.
We have yet to receive a thank you card or anything about the wedding/gifts/etc. Is ~2 months enough time to expect a thank you card?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
Speaking as someone who couldn’t sleep the night after my 2 showers until I did my thank you cards and then sent them out ASAP – YES. She should have sent a thank you card by now. One for the shower and one for the wedding.
Post # 4
It wouldn’t bother me personally. She likely had a billion other things to do between the shower and wedding and I’m assuming a honeymoon since then. And maybe they’re waiting for pro pics to get cards made up.
Post # 5
Yeah, some people want to use photos from the wedding as thank-you cards. Also, strictly speaking, I think anything up to a year from the wedding is the ‘allowable’ time for thank-you cards to be sent out (at least, I read that somewhere). Two months is a bit of a pain, but I’m sure your gifts were appreciated nonetheless!
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
2 months is nothing. Ettiquett rules say that anything up to 12 months after the wedding is still within the realm of acceptability.
Post # 7
Hah, I just did a thread about this. I was curious how long it took other people to send out their cards… we got them out 5 months after the wedding.
Post # 8
I don’t buy the 12 months nonsense, they don’t take THAT long to write. Maybe she wants to do combined Xmas/Thank You cards? I’d wait 3-4 months before getting annoyed.
Post # 9
FI and I waited 3 months for a TY card for a wedding. I didn’t care that they were waiting for pics to be delivered (which turned out to be a postcard), its still came off rude. I had started asking where they were at 1 month.
Post # 10
I go against what Emily Post says. It takes less than 10 minutes to write a think you card, so I really start expecting them within the month. My bridal shower thank you cards were in the mail 2 days after my bridal shower, most of my thank you cards for the wedding were in the mail 4 days after the wedding, some were 2 weeks later because my husband was being lazy. Hahaha. But I do admit that I am an over acheiver.
Post # 11
I sent mine at about the 3 month mark since we were waiting on pro pics to include on the thank you cards. I wouldn’t get annoyed just yet.
Post # 12
i think they should be sent out within 3-4 months of the wedding, but i also think it’s never too late to say thank you, so if it takes a year to send them out, then better than never.
i would have had my cards sent out a month ago if i’d had my pictures, but i just received them yesterday, so i’m definitely going to get them done soon.
i think you also need to consider what kind of post-wedding madness they had going on. traveling (destination wedding, honeymoon), moving, etc. those things can delay thank you cards.
Post # 13
I had a similar situation but it was October 2011. I am still annoyed by it. I know they say 12 months but I think 3 is a better time frame. I am also they type that cant sleep until they are done.
Post # 14
I am an avid thank you note writer and I have heard that 3-6 months is respectable. They are building a life and making a home so it may take a bit longer to get them all out. Calm down!
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@vorpalette: Not everyone is super on the ball about these kinds of things. I just got a thank you last week from my friend who got married in July, and I haven’t yet received a card from friends who got married in August. Whatevs. I think a year is way too late, but up to 6 months isn’t rude in my book.
Post # 16
@subtlebee: They’ve lived together for two years in the house that the groom owns–they aren’t making a home. We’ve been to their house since the wedding and nothing’s changed.
They also got their pro pics back almost a month ago (I was wondering if they were waiting on those for the cards), they’ve been back from their honeymoon for a month and a half, no destination wedding, no moving, nothing. They both went back to work after the wedding, went on their honeymoon, and then went back to work again. Someone mentioned combined thank you/Christmas cards, although they’ve never sent out Christmas cards before.
I think 12 months is excessive, but hopefully we get one soon?
Then again, I’ve never received a thank you card for ANY wedding I’ve been to, so…