Post # 1
So I cannot believe I am admitting this to anyone, but I need help.
We got married four months ago – and the only thank you cards that were ever sent were those for my bridal showers. A big part of this was that my laptop crashed with all of our addresses saved into it, so many people I don’t have contact information for any longer. I also insisted that my husband not leave them 100% to me, but at this point I need to get them out the door even if I have to handwrite them all myself.
I’ve scrounged up much of the list at this point and want to get out the cards… but I’m also really feeling guilty about how late they are. Any advice on what to say? Should I mention that I am sorry we waited?
Post # 3
I don’t think you need to say anything, just write a normal thank you note. Honestly four months is not that long, I’ve often gotten wedding thank you’s over a year after the wedding!
Post # 4
I would just send them…no need to apologize. People know that weddings are hectic and things happen. Any note is better than no note at all!
Post # 5
I think you should just send them without mentioning that they are late. I know lots of people don’t send them out until the 6 month mark. I think you are fine.
Post # 6
You are not that late so don’t let your fears about that stop you from getting started.
I wouldn’t apologize or explain about the computer crash (it would just look like an excuse).
Just write the note as you would ordinarily and get them out asap.
Post # 7
No apology needed, you are within a reasonable time frame still. But do get them out the door soon or they’ll loom over your head!
Post # 8
I can relate–we got married a little over 5 months ago and there is still one thank you card that I haven’t sent out yet!! I really just need to bite the bullet and do it. I’m planning on just writing a normal note though, not bringing attention t othe fact that I’m very tardy in sending it out!
Post # 9
I don’t see the need to apologize either. Hey at least you are sending them 😉
Post # 10
We got married in August and still haven’t finished ours, so don’t feel bad. Just do them when you can.
Post # 11
I thought the “etiquette” was that you have 6 months to send them out. I got married in early November and haven’t sent mine yet either. Don’t worry. Mine are written out… but I haven’t found the motivation to go buy the stamps and send them out. 😉
Post # 12
Don’t feel too bad about it. Your situation is by far not the worst I’ve heard of. I once got a TY card from a bride more than a year after the wedding (I sent my gift before the wedding) AND it was a generic “Thank you for the gift generous guest” printout. I think that’s a little worse 🙂
Also, don’t apologize for the tardiness. Just feel lucky that your MIL hasn’t complained to your DH about her family not getting TY cards after only 1 month. Whoops, did I just say that?
Post # 13
Ours has been sitting in our office for a very long time.
I so need to get started…….
Post # 14
@moderndaisy: HA! Actually, I’ve gotten a few backhanded comments – including someone asking me if I ever manged to recover the guest list or not. So yeah, I know what you are going through!
Post # 15
That’s not too long! Plus you had the holidays in there! I wouldn’t address the issue, just send them out as soon as you can. Nobody will think anything of it, unless you don’t send them at all.
Post # 16
Don’t say anything about it being late in the card! Just send it as normal… and get started! I know it feels daunting, but you really do start making a dent when you do a couple a day – or every other day… or twice a week… just do SOMETHING!