(Closed) Thank you cards…when is too late to send them out…

posted 5 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

never.

Post # 4
Hostess
13662 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I always think that it’s better to send late than never. Always.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s never too late to be polite, but you should send them as soon as possible.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Well it’s never too late.  Blame the mail or that you wrote it and then lost it in a pile of presents or stuff from your move.  But send them regardless. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Ideally they are sent within 3 months, but late is better than never.

Post # 8
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would aim for at the latest 2 months after your wedding, but it is never too late to send one.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Agreed….better late than never.  I went to a wedding a few years ago out of town–drove 3 hours and stayed in a hotel.  I spent money to travel and bought a moderately priced gift and never received a thank you card.  That really rubbed me the wrong way.  Needless to say, they aren’t invited to my wedding this November. 

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Don’t blame anything. People will know you are not being truthful. If you feel the need, apologize for the delay but the key thing is get them done and mailed.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have to agree with the “never” post…it’s never too late. But, I think that being timely shows sincerity regarding your gratefulness. I once received a thank you note over a year after the wedding. While I was glad to receive it, I also was perturbed at how long it took for the bride to send. *Shrug* I am aiming to have mine done within the month after the wedding.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@future_mrs_sommer:  Keep in mind their mail to you might have been eaten by the post office.  I’ve received a letter from my sister two years after she sent it once, and another time my wedding check to a friend was never received (I asked when I got no thank you/never cashed – she’s an etiquette stickler so I knew she would have sent one).

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@kay01:  But a lot of times you know other people at the wedding, and can ask.  I know I’ve asked my mother if she ever received a thank you from X, or vice versa.   If she says yes and I didn’t get one, then it’s likely a mail mishap happened.  If neither of us got one (we live several states apart), then…someone probably didn’t write one.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MsMindle:  Was the bride your friend or the groom?  Just a pet peeve of mine that people expect the bride to send thank yous even when they know the groom not the bride!  Particularly annoying to know people might blame me when I wrote all of my thank yous within a month (handmaking each card) but DH hasn’t finished his yet (despite me addressing all of them and writing more than half of his – the ones left are his sister, a groomsmen, work, and people I’ve never met, so he really needs to write them).

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@abbie017:  Very true.  I just try to give the benefit of the doubt (where reasonable) after my bad mail experiences.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think even it’s late you should send them out.

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