Post # 1
We recently send out Save-The-Date Cards and we have received a couple of gifts. Our wedding is just under 6 months away so I’m unsure if these are engagement gifts or wedding gifts. Either way, I plan to send a thank you card immediately for any gift received prior to the wedding.
However, this raised an interesting question: if these are gifts for the wedding, sent 6 months in advance, do we still send a “thank you for attending” card to the senders after the wedding? Do we send a “thank you for attending” to any guests that attend our wedding and do not give a gift/card or just those who do?
Post # 3
Personally, I chose to thank everyone who came to my wedding, gift or not because I was thrilled that they’d taken the time and effort to come celebrate with me! 🙂
Post # 4
I’d assume they are engagement gifts. The thank you card can just say “thank you for the lovely gift and for thinking of us.” If you plan to send thank you cards to all who attend you wedding, then do not exclude anyone who has sent you a gift prior to that. I have not decided what I am doing yet as far as thank you notes (wedding is in July) but I think it depends on the number of people who show up and how much time we have. Obviously, I will send thank you cards to any and everyone who brings a gift but I’m still on the fence about those who don’t bring anything (unless there is some special circumstance). I’d never heard of sending thank yous to all who attended a wedding irregardless of whether or not they brought a gift before I signed up on WeddingBee, but I also just assumed that you bring a gift to a wedding, even it is something small.
Post # 5
I would send them thankyous now – I’m not sure if I’d treat it as an engagement or wedding gift either, as usually you’d get an engagement gift when you announce an engagement rather than send out Save-The-Date Cards. Maybe you have awesome friends! I only had two people come to our wedding who didn’t give us anything (not even a card) and I didn’t send them thankyous. I figured I had given them favours and verbal thankyous on the day, so I counted the thankyou card as being for the gift.
Post # 6
You don’t need to send ‘thank you for attending’ cards to those who attended but did not bring a gift. The reception is your thank you to guests who attended your marriage ceremony.
Any gifts you receive prior to the wedding should be acknowledged (by a card) promptly. Etiquette dictates wedding gifts to not be used until after the wedding.