Post # 1
I did not expect to be dealing with this yet, which I guess is part of the problem! Here’s the story:
I’ve been doing some editing work for a friend, and she passed my name along to her boss, and then I started doing some editing work for him, too, since he’s writing a book. I have never met him in person and all my communication actually still goes through my friend (a little weird but fine). All this is well and good…but in today’s mail, I got a beautiful card and a generous check from second boss, congratulating me on my upcoming marriage! I get the impression he heard through my friend, but didn’t get the part where I’m not getting married for another 17 months. Also, there are no names on the return address on the envelope, and I can’t read his wife’s name in the signature!
I obviously have to send a gracious thank you card, but do I address the wedding date issue? Do I get the wife’s name from the friend? Asking her is a little awkward since she is single and, while very graciously happy for me, I know she is a little sad she’s not in a happy relationship, too. I try not to do too much wedding-talking with her since I don’t want to rub it in her face (and we’re not super close friends, anyway).
What would you do?
Post # 3
If you can think of a good excuse to ask your friend for the address without mentioning your wedding, try that. Or if you think it’s safe, write a thank-you note and seal it in an envelope and ask your friend to give it to the boss. If you don’t think either of those options is safe, try searching for the boss in the phone book and online… you just might find him.
Good luck! And congrats on your first wedding gift!
Post # 4
I would get the address from your friend and casually ask about the spelling of his wife’s name. I don’t think you need to say anything about the wedding date to them. Just thank them for their wonderful gift.
Post # 5
Is the address on the check that they sent you? If it’s a joint account then the wife’s name might be on there too
Post # 6
Ask Friend if she knows the wifes name. Chances of asking her why…probably slim. If she does then say you got something in the mail from 2nd boss can’t quite make out the wifes name. No need to go into details and explain what it is.
I don’t think that you need to address the date issue. Just a thank you would do.
Post # 7
Unfortunately no name on the check, either–it’s written from his business account so it just says his business name, then address…I’m actually not positive I have his last name, but I have to be able to find that somewhere in my paperwork.
I guess I’ll have to ask my friend–That’s a great idea about “checking the spelling” of her name! For whatever reason, I feel much less awkward about that than asking “What’s Boss’s wife’s name?”
It was totally unexpected to get anything from them at all, let alone waaaaaay before the wedding 🙂